Как поставить обидчика на место, противостоять манипуляциям и конфликтам. Психолог Ирина Ковалёва

The most emotional aspects of life are associated with conflict. It's very difficult for us not to react when we're treated rudely on public transport, provoked at work, or even when a social media conversation can drive us crazy. What can we even say about loved ones? Rude teenagers, parents who sometimes continue to believe they can dictate their adult children's lives, and spouses. Serious and lasting conflicts with them can ruin our mood. Some have been bullied at school or unexpectedly found themselves the outcast in their university class. Our entire world is permeated with a positional struggle for justice and the search for answers to the questions "who is right and who is wrong?" How should we behave in conflict situations to avoid feeling vulnerable? What psychological skills should we learn to respond gracefully to a bully and resist provocation? We discussed all this with psychologist and motivational coach Irina Kovaleva in the new episode of Self-Knowledge. 00:00:00 In this episode 00:01:01 "That's how you should have responded!" 00:03:15 How do you react to this situation? 00:05:01 How does an adult react in a conflict? 00:05:47 Rudeness on the subway and an effective response 00:08:22 People always talk about themselves 00:08:57 Yulia on criticism on social media 00:09:39 Why does Yulia constantly sit with her mouth open!? 00:11:57 Arguments in the comments and on social media – how to respond? 00:12:44 School – how to prepare children for a conflict environment? 00:16:36 Why do boys and girls behave so differently at school? 00:17:14 Bullying and helping a schoolchild establish boundaries 00:18:19 Who needs a psychologist more – children or their parents? 00:20:23 How to help a child resolve a conflict? 00:22:02 The example of Irina and her grandson, who was being bullied at school 00:26:57 The child is swearing. How should I respond? 00:29:03 What happens if I react too emotionally? 00:30:32 How to stay calm when provoked? 00:31:29 Anti-bullying behavior at school 00:32:46 How should teachers act if a student is being bullied? 00:34:16 How Yulia was bullied by her teenage daughter 00:36:29 Reaction to rudeness in teenagers 00:38:51 When does our brain fully mature?! 00:39:43 Sanctions that will correct a teenager's behavior 00:43:55 Example: How a mother taught her sons to wash dishes 00:47:00 How should an adult respond to parental manipulation? 00:48:07 The mother who calls an ambulance when she's contradicted 00:52:35 How can you change your attitude toward conflict with your parents? 00:57:05 "Don't play chess with a hockey player" 01:00:29 Conflicts in an adult group 01:00:47 Testing communication styles in a group 01:01:26 Historical differences in European and Asian types of consciousness 01:04:51 What do conflicts at work mean? 01:06:23 People who always blame someone else 01:07:52 How to react differently to rudeness? 01:08:28 How to put someone in their place? 01:10:25 How to learn to avoid getting involved in conflicts? 01:12:31 Does Irina ever get offended? Yulia Menshova's Social Media Telegram: https://t.me/JuliaMenshovaJulia Instagram*:   / juliavmenshova   VK Community: https://vk.com/samamenshova Yandex.Zen: https://dzen.ru/samamenshova *Instagram is owned by the American company Meta, which has been declared extremist and is banned in Russia. #psychology #menshova #samamenshova