«Хорошие мне скучны»: что на самом деле значит «нет искры»?

"The Map of Repetitions": What Parental Deficiencies Are You Looking for in a Partner - https://t.me/codeA8/1127 Online Consultation - https://myhealing.tilda.ws Free Channel Resources - https://t.me/codeA8/1026    • Усталость угодницы — это не лень. Это неоп...      • «Нет» когда-то стоило любви: почему вы не ...      • «Не знаю, чего хочу»: место внутри, которо...      • Ты не ленивая и не слабая: почему ты на дн...   If you've ever felt drawn to someone who's clearly unsuitable—more than to someone kind and reliable—this broadcast will explain why. And it's not about stupidity. We'll explore the mechanism: why we choose the familiar over the good. What is repetition compulsion, and why "chemistry" is often not compatibility, but the recognition of an old wound. Where does the idea "good people bore me" come from, and why am I drawn to cold, unavailable, and controlling people? The main connection of the ether: emotional coldness in childhood seeks a cold partner, abandonment seeks an unstable one, suppression seeks a controlling one. Based on real cases (names have been changed), including a male one. The "Recognize Attraction" practice is the skill of taking one breath between being overwhelmed by chemicals and choosing the old way. And answers to the main questions: will I only like "boring" people now? How can I stop choosing the same way? Is it too late to change my personality type after 50? 🧩 Part of the intensive course "Dad, Mom, Me - The Architecture of the Inner Family." ⚠️ Informational and educational format, does not replace therapy. Alex Hunt | PTSD, c-PTSD, narcissistic abuse | Online Consultations Online Consultation - https://myhealing.tilda.ws Free Channel Resources - https://t.me/codeA8/1026 TIMESTAMPS: 0:00 You're not drawn to the bad, but to the recognizable. 1:23 The nervous system doesn't need anything better. She needed it the way it was 2:27 Obsessive repetition: the psyche plays out an unfinished scene 3:38 A lifelong casting: looking for someone who didn't love enough 4:20 Butterflies in the stomach - not love, but recognition 5:10 Warm-cold: why a reward hits like a casino every other time 6:03 Which "insufficient" one do you choose? 8:04 Lena, 44: "I don't need good ones, there's no celebration" 9:23 Irina, 49: ten years save not a man, but a father 11:00 Vera, 53: third husband-commander and quiet panic from the question "what do you want" 12:15 Dmitry, 48: a father in a dress and an eternal love test 14:04 Practice: seeing your radar without breaking it 18:35 Will I only like boring ones now? 21:13 Why "I Know Everything About Myself" Doesn't Work 24:18 Already in a Relationship with an "Acquaintance": Run or Stay? DISCLAIMER The information in this podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not a substitute for professional psychological or psychotherapeutic care, diagnosis, or treatment. Viewing or listening to this content does not establish a therapeutic psychologist-client relationship. If you are experiencing psychological difficulties, experiencing a crisis, or need professional support, please contact a licensed psychologist, psychotherapist, or other qualified mental health professional in your country. Legal Issues: Any reference to legal matters (divorce, child custody, protection from violence, property disputes, etc.) does not constitute legal advice or a recommendation for action. For qualified legal assistance, please contact licensed attorneys and lawyers in your country specializing in family law and the protection of civil rights. Examples and Case Studies: All stories, examples, and situations used in the podcast are generalized, composite, or fictitious for illustrative purposes. Any resemblance to actual people, events, or circumstances is purely coincidental and unintentional. The video does not contain any references to any specific person and should not be used to imply that any specific person suffers from narcissism. Linking to or reposting this video is NOT permitted, especially to support the creators' assertion that they believe or support the claim that a specific person is a narcissist. Doing so would constitute unauthorized misuse of the video and the information contained therein.