What To Do When Your Spouse Says They Want Space

Book a call with my team here: monikahoyt.com/talk OR 👉SUBSCRIBE: https://www.youtube.com/c/MonikaHoyt?... If your spouse just told you they're thinking about separation, the worst thing you can do right now is try to convince them to stay. I know that sounds backwards — but that instinct to panic, to demand answers, to prove it wasn't that bad? That's the exact response that's going to push them out the door faster. (👉Here is a shorter, edited version of this talk: https://youtube.com/live/zHow1oRLBcc) In this talk, I'm going to show you • Why your natural reaction is sabotaging your marriage, and • What you should be doing instead if you actually want a chance at turning this around. I work with couples who are right where you are — one spouse is leaning out, talking about separation, maybe already emotionally gone. They feel sudden to you, you may feel blindsided but most often your spouse has usually been quietly drowning for months, maybe years. The warning signs were there — • repeated complaints about feeling disconnected, • unresolved hurts piling up, • them shutting down instead of fighting, • you getting defensive every time they tried to tell you something was wrong. • An erosion of warmth happening so slowly you didn't even notice until it was gone. By the end of this talk my hope is that, you're going to understand the 4 mistakes to avoid and the things you must do differently if you want to interrupt the pattern that got you here —AND… why the crisis you're in right now might actually be the best thing that could happen to your marriage.