How to Win Back a Leaning Out Spouse (Live Q&A with Therapist)

Welcome back to my weekly live Q&A, where I answer your real relationship and marriage questions in real time. In this episode, we cover a wide range of topics: how to win back a spouse who's leaning out, what it means when you're attracted to someone outside your marriage, how to get clarity from a partner who keeps stalling on "the talk," what to do when your spouse says they miss you after months of silence, and how to support (or not over-support) a partner who's working through shame and guilt after an affair. We also dig into one of the biggest relationship killers: resentment. I talk about why it forms, why it takes time to melt even after real change has happened, and why detaching from the outcome is often what finally lets a leaning-out partner feel safe enough to come back. If you're going through separation, considering reconciliation, or trying to figure out whether your relationship still has a chance, this episode is full of practical, compassionate guidance you can start using today. 0:00 Welcome and how to join the private Facebook group 2:30 Is it normal to be attracted to someone else while married? 6:09 How to get clarity when your partner won't commit to "the talk" 7:41 Coping with uncertainty while you wait for an answer 15:47 She said she misses me after 6 months of emotional detachment 19:49 I gave my wife the divorce and now she wants to work it out 22:26 My wife announced a new relationship on social media 24:36 Supporting a husband recovering from an emotional affair 31:25 How to talk to a partner who feels shame and guilt without making it worse 36:13 How do you melt resentment when a partner refuses to look inward? 42:13 We're separated but she only stayed at her new apartment once 44:26 How to initiate reconciliation after 11 months apart 47:36 He texted an apology after saying he wanted a divorce 53:31 Should I try again with someone who won't take accountability? 58:25 Why taking 100% accountability for your part changes everything Want personalized support for your marriage? Book a free call with my team: https://www.monikahoyt.com/talk Book a paid deep-dive consult with Monika: https://www.monikahoyt.com/session Ask your questions privately in my Facebook group: facebook.com/healthyauthenticmarriages Email us anytime: [email protected] I'm here live every Tuesday at 4pm Central in my private Facebook group, and every Thursday at 12pm Central here on YouTube and my public Facebook page. Come with your questions. #MarriageCoach #SaveYourMarriage #Reconciliation #MarriageAdvice #TheCouplesCure