Your Guide to Better Romance, Sex, & Love From the #1 Sex Professor

In this episode, you are going to learn how to have amazing sex, deeper intimacy, and create real, lasting love. If you’re not having sex, or if sex feels like one more thing on the to-do list, this is what you need to hear right now. Today, Mel sits down with Dr. Nicole McNichols, PhD, a University of Washington professor who teaches the most popular class on campus – which is about human sexuality. There is a reason she is the country’s #1 sex professor. Her message is simple: nothing is “wrong” with you. You were just never taught how desire actually works, what turns you on, or how women’s pleasure is even designed. Dr. McNichols will change the way you think about arousal, orgasm, and intimacy, including the mind-blowing truth that women’s anatomy has been misunderstood for decades. Did you know the clitoris wasn’t fully mapped until the early 2000s? This episode is the sex advice women actually need. This is not another conversation about how to please your partner, it’s not about performing, pushing through, or “fixing” yourself. It’s about pleasure, connection, and learning the skills that make sex feel good again at any age, and in real life. You will learn: -Why desire often shows up after you start, and what to do when you love your partner but “don’t feel like it” -The biggest sex misconception keeping couples stuck (and how to rebuild without pressure) -What most people never learned about the clitoris, arousal, and why penetrative sex alone isn’t the main path to orgasm -How to stop faking orgasms and start communicating in ways that actually work -The simplest way to rebuild intimacy when you’re exhausted, stressed, or parenting with zero privacy -What to do if menopause, dryness, or pain is making sex feel impossible (and why you should not just “live with it”) -How to get out of your head if body image has hijacked your sex life -How to date again and rebuild confidence after a long dry spell, without forcing yourself into hookups If you’ve ever thought, “I’m too tired,” “I love them but I’m not in the mood,” “It hurts,” “My body changed,” or “It’s been so long I don’t even know where to start,” this episode will give you language, relief, and a way forward. Dr. McNichols’ book is You Could Be Having Better Sex and after this conversation, you will. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/ep... Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram:   / themelrobbinspodcast   I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 00:00 Meet the Guest 5:49 The Science-Backed Health Benefits of Great Sex 13:12 You Can Get Better in Bed: Simple Habits That Improve Your Sex Life 21:48 Foreplay Tips 23:46 The Orgasm Gap 26:57 Does Penis Size Matter? 28:06 How Long Does It Take to Orgasm? 30:35 How to Stop Faking Orgasms: What to Say to Your Partner 36:47 How to Improve Sex in a Long-Term Relationship 41:00 Sexual Fantasies Explained: Does a Fantasy Mean You Really Want It? 48:07 Is Sexuality Fluid? Exploring Attraction, Identity, and Sexual Orientation 50:53 Kink 101: How to Add Kink Into Your Sex Life 53:40 How to Find the Clitoris: A Simple, Accurate Guide 1:01:14 A Guide to Clitoral Orgasms: How to Give and Receive Pleasure 1:08:48 Painful Sex During Menopause: Causes, Solutions, and What Helps 1:17:11 Navigating Hookup Culture: How to Explore Casual Sex Without Forcing It 1:24:11 Do Only Men Want Casual Sex? The Truth About Desire (Men vs. Women) 1:25:51 How Busy Parents Can Rebuild Intimacy With No Time or Privacy 1:29:50 Overcoming Body Image Anxiety During Sex — Follow Mel: Instagram:   / melrobbins   TikTok:   / melrobbins   Facebook:   / melrobbins   LinkedIn:   / melrobbins   Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?s... — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah