Psychologist & Married for 30 Years: What You Were Taught About Love Is Wrong

Follow Nina Dixon & CTND for BTS + daily takeaways:   / ninapaldixon     / chaiteawithninad   Lower your standards. Don’t be too much. Keep the peace. Every woman knows the rules. Nobody remembers agreeing to them. This week, Nina sits down with Dr. Amanda Hanson, the Midlife Muse: 30 years of clinical psychology, international bestselling author of Muse: Magnetism Of Women Who Stop Abandoning Themselves, and a voice that has reached over 500 million women worldwide. She walked away from a system that kept telling women they were the problem, and in this conversation she says the things most women are taught to keep quiet, out loud. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN Why you should never lower your expectations, and what actually attracts a good man The first-date curiosity test that reveals a man’s character fast Circular dating: the rules that weed out the wrong men in weeks, not years Why women get misdiagnosed and overmedicated, and what coming back alive looks like (an honest conversation, not medical advice) What Botox and beauty standards have to do with your anger, your relationships, and feeling safe The truth about cheating: who does it, why it happens, and the one test for staying or leaving Witnessing instead of fixing: what everyone actually wants from a partner How to stop mothering everyone but yourself and become the main character of your own life TIMESTAMPS 0:00 The Rules Women Never Agreed To 1:37 Why Lowering Your Standards Backfires 3:45 Can Men Sense When You Are Performing? 6:52 Are There Actually Good Men Out There? 9:56 Why Women Get Labeled Unstable 15:16 How Botox Can Affect Emotion and Connection 17:44 What Men Need to Understand About Women's Bodies 23:55 The First-Date Curiosity Test and Circular Dating 27:47 What a Non-Transactional Marriage Looks Like 33:40 Why Amanda Filed for Divorce 37:32 The Emotional Affair That Forced the Truth 40:46 Why Men Avoid Vulnerability 47:01 Witnessing Instead of Fixing 50:01 How Childhood Pain Became Her Purpose 53:53 The Four Archetypes Every Woman Carries 56:50 Do Men Really Want the Beauty Standard? 59:16 The Archetypes Women Overdevelop 1:04:18 When Your Body Knows Before Your Mind 1:07:50 Should You Stay After Infidelity? 1:11:20 Is Monogamy Natural? 1:18:33 Become the Main Character of Your Own Life 1:22:21 Freedom Without Responsibility 1:26:36 Can You Spot Character Before It Is Too Late? 1:29:16 What Her Mother Never Told Her About Love 1:32:32 Magnetic 2026: October 3-4 in Fort Lauderdale Follow Dr. Amanda Hanson - Midlife Muse   / midlife.muse   ABOUT DR. AMANDA HANSON Dr. Amanda Hanson is one of the leading voices in modern psychology and women’s development. International bestselling author of Muse: Magnetism Of Women Who Stop Abandoning Themselves, she has spoken on stages like Mindvalley and Tony Robbins and has been featured in Vogue, The New York Post, and Insider. She is also the host of “Midlife Muse: Things Your Mother Never Told You,” a podcast with over 250,000 downloads, featuring conversations with guests like Gary Vaynerchuk and Dr. Shefali Tsabary. At the heart of her work is one powerful belief: women are not here to be fixed. They are here to return to themselves.