The Uncomfortable Question You Should Ask on Every First Date - Alain de Botton

Alain de Botton is one of the most influential philosophers of our time, best-selling author, and the founder of The School of Life. His work has helped millions of people develop greater self-understanding and improve their relationships. 00:00 Intro 01:56 The best thinking comes from problems 07:45 The anatomy of a good friend 10:10 What is an emotionally mature person? 12:26 Why are some people stuck in earlier stages of development? 13:44 How to get in touch with yourself 15:30 The questions that unlock self exploration 22:00 Emotional Curriculum 24:00 How attachment styles form 28:00 Why do we go for people that are good for us 29:55 How to heal insecure attachment 30:35 How to date successfully 35:50 Dating mistakes we make 36:50 How long should you wait for intimacy? 39:20 Everyone has red flags 42:50 How to make someone fall in love 44:40 Why some people are magnetic 47:38 Taking successful people off the pedestal 50:30 How to solve the loneliness epidemic 54:40 Feeling like you never fit in 56:00 Attachment styles in friendships 58:30 Love reveals your true identity 59:53 How do you know you've chosen the right person 01:03:09 What lovable people look like 01:03:39 Is love enough? 01:05:27 How to know if to stay or go in a relationship 01:07:12 Why do we sabotage good relationships 01:10:05 Not being attracted to your partner 01:17:03 How to navigate a breakup