How Can I Enjoy Dating? Dating Advice From Therapy Jeff

Jeff Guenther, LPC, also known as TherapyJeff, joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack everything on modern romance. They break down the dating world as a space that requires nervous system regulation and radical authenticity. Jeff advocates for a shift away from performing for validation to a more grounded approach focused on genuine curiosity instead of the pressure of finding "the one." Some takeaways: Why looking at first dates as fun instead of as a job interview leads to better matches How to check in with your nervous system to avoid performing for validation Understanding how dating apps gamify rejection and how they lead to burnout The difference between healthy vulnerability and trauma dumping and how to spot early signs love bombing For sponsorships, please reach out to [email protected] Join our Substack community: https://whatyourtherapistthinks.subst... Follow WYTT on Instagram:   / wyttpodcast   Follow Felicia on Instagram:   / the_bad_therapist   Connect with Jeff Website: https://www.therapyjeff.com Instagram:   / therapyjeff   TikTok:   / therapyjeff   Podcast: “Problem Solved”: https://www.therapyjeff.com/podcast Book: “Big Dating Energy”: https://amzn.to/4qSxlN5 Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 05:10 Why dating is so emotionally exhausting 10:04 The brutal reality of modern dating apps 18:20 How to stay grounded on first dates 22:15 The controversy of first date coffee dates 25:18 Major dating red flags to watch for 30:31 Reddit story: getting too drunk on dates 38:58 Reddit story: dating a flat earth believer 44:20 Reddit story: dealing with feeling unattractive 56:56 Why dating is a numbers game *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Listen to the audio version wherever you get your podcasts *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com: http://besttherapists.com *Produced by PodVision: https://pod.vision/ If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.