How Do I Set Boundaries With Family? A Guide To Surviving The Holidays
In this special holiday episode, Katrina P. Mautner, a queer trauma-informed therapist, joins Kristie and Felicia to talk everything on setting boundaries with family. Drawing from Katrina’s anti-oppressive and harm reduction framework, they break down boundaries as a tool for connection—defining them as the distance at which you can love both yourself and the other person. Some takeaways: How boundaries actually allow us to deepen relationships and say "yes" more freely Surviving difficult moments with "strategic avoidance" and internal boundaries Applying a harm reduction lens to deescalate family conflict, even imperfectly For sponsorships, please reach out to [email protected] Be the first to join the upcoming WYTT Substack: https://whatyourtherapistthinks.subst... Follow Felicia on Instagram: / the_bad_therapist Follow WYTT on Instagram: / wyttpodcast Connect with Katrina: http://www.passionfruittherapy.com/ Katrina’s Newsletter: https://passionfruit-therapy.kit.com/... Chapters: 00:00 Introduction 01:30 Why Boundaries Actually Deepen Relationships 04:45 Enforcing Boundaries: Control Your Actions, Not Theirs 08:30 Harm Reduction & Strategic Avoidance 12:30 A Tactical Guide to Setting Effective Boundaries 16:15 Tailoring Boundaries for Different Family Members 18:30 Story: Thanksgiving Conflict & Parenting Styles 24:45 How to Handle Parenting Clashes & Ultimatums 34:45 Creating a Self-Care Plan (The "Back Pocket" Card) 37:15 What Katrina Mautner Really Thinks about Boundaries 41:30 The "Therapy Buffet" Technique 42:30 Final Thoughts & Resources *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks: / @whatyourtherapistthinks *Connect with us on Instagram: / wyttpodcast *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com: http://BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision: https://pod.vision If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.
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