Se fue porque SÍ le importabas (la paradoja del APEGO EVITATIVO)

In this video, we analyze why a person with an avoidant attachment style might withdraw just when the relationship starts to feel more intimate. From a psychological and psychodynamic perspective, we'll understand what happens when closeness triggers a fear of intimacy, emotional deactivation, and a need for distance. There's something very confusing about caring for someone with an avoidant attachment style: sometimes they withdraw just when things seem to be getting better. They don't leave when nothing is happening. They leave after an intimate moment, after getting close, after showing something, after you felt that something was finally growing. And then the question arises: Are they withdrawing because they don't care about me? In this video, we'll look at that scenario from a different perspective: perhaps they don't withdraw because they don't feel anything, but because closeness starts to trigger an internal alarm they don't know how to handle. We're not going to romanticize running away or justify someone hurting you. We're going to understand what happens when a person desires connection but at the same time needs distance to avoid feeling exposed. We discuss avoidant attachment, couple psychology, fear of intimacy, emotional distance, affective deactivation, and anxious-avoidant bonds. If you find this type of content helpful, please subscribe. It greatly helps me continue making videos like this. Psychodynamics explores the invisible dynamics that organize our relationships. References: Bowlby, J. (1988). A Secure Base. Paidós. Mikulincer, M., & Shaver, P. R. (2007). Attachment in Adulthood. Guilford Press. Johnson, S. (2008). Hold Me Tight. Ediciones Urano. Fonagy, P., Gergely, G., Jurist, E. L., & Target, M. (2002). Affect Regulation, Mentalization, and the Development of the Self. Other Press. #AvoidantAttachment #Psychology #CouplePsychology #Relationships #Couple #Attachment #EmotionalDistance #FearOfIntimacy #AnxiousAvoidantBonds #Psychodynamics Music: Song: Shifting — Oak Studios |    • [Background Music] Shifting - Japanese Jaz...   Song: Roots — Oak Studios |    • [background music] azure - delicate piano ...   Song: Azure — Oak Studios |    • [No Copyright Music] Roots - Chill Piano B...   Creative Commons — Attribution ND 4.0