Él se aleja y tú lo persigues (la lógica que atrapa a un ansioso con un evitativo)

In this video, you'll understand why the bond between someone with anxious attachment and someone with avoidant attachment not only causes pain but also creates a deep-seated dependency. It's not simply a matter of one person wanting a lot and the other a little. Nor is it just fear of commitment, emotional dependence, or a "bad choice of partner." Behind this dynamic lies a deeper relational logic: every move the other person makes triggers something very specific, which is why the relationship can feel intense, difficult to let go of, and strangely stable amidst the conflict. If you've ever experienced that the more distant the other person became, the more you felt the need to get closer, seek them out, or understand what was happening, this video will help you see it more clearly. And if you recognize yourself more in the other person—needing space precisely when the bond becomes closer or more important—this will help you see it more clearly too. Here, you won't find a list of signs or empty advice: we're going to understand the psychological mechanism that organizes this dynamic, how it's regulated, why it persists between two people, and what makes the cycle repeat itself. We talk about anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, romantic relationships, emotional distance, fear of intimacy, emotional dependency, and childhood wounds, but above all, about something more specific: the invisible logic that makes one person pursue the other just when they become distant, and the other need to withdraw just when closeness increases. If you find this type of content helpful, please subscribe. It greatly helps me continue making videos like this. Psychodynamics explores the invisible dynamics that organize our relationships: in family, romantic partnerships, work, and everyday life. In this video, we analyze anxious-avoidant dynamics from a psychodynamic perspective, articulating attachment theory, contemporary psychoanalysis, and recognizable scenes from relational life. Bibliography mentioned: Bowlby, J. (1988). A Secure Base: Clinical Applications of Attachment Theory. Paidós. Ainsworth, M. D., Blehar, M. C., Waters, E., & Wall, S. (1978). Patterns of Attachment: A Psychological Study of the Strange Situation. Psychology Press. Mikulincer, M., & Shaver, P. R. (2007). Attachment in Adulthood: Structure, Dynamics, and Change. Guilford Press. Johnson, S. (2008). Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for Lasting Love. Ediciones Urano. Gojman de Millán, S., & Millán, S. (2007). Biological and Social Foundations of Emotional Development: An Empirical Contribution Derived from Attachment Theory. Norte de Salud Mental. Topics we explore on this channel: psychodynamics, contemporary psychoanalysis, attachment theory, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, anxious-avoidant dynamics, romantic relationships, relational trauma, emotional dependency, emotional distance, fear of intimacy, emotional regulation, identity, childhood, and family. #AnxiousAttachment #AvoidantAttachment #RomanticRelationships #Psychology #Psychodynamics #EmotionalDependency #EmotionalDistance #ChildhoodWounds Music: Song: Shifting — Oak Studios |    • [Background Music] Shifting - Japanese Jaz...   Song: Roots — Oak Studios |    • [background music] azure - delicate piano ...   Song: Azure — Oak Studios |    • [No Copyright Music] Roots - Chill Piano B...   Creative Commons — Attribution ND 4.0