My Dad's Domestic Violence and Abuse | Power and Control in Christian Fundamentalism

This video is about my dad’s domestic violence and abuse. I briefly explain the power and control wheel, as well as the gender hierarchy in Christian fundamentalism. To share my story, I give a timeline of traumatic events that happened in my family. I also explain the effect these incidents had on my mental health. Thanks so much for watching! Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233) Power and Control Wheel: https://www.thehotline.org/identify-a... “Love and abuse cannot coexist.” - bell hooks “All About Love: New Visions” by bell hooks: https://bookshop.org/books/all-about-... “MICHAEL AND DEBI PEARL” by Fundie Fridays:    • To Train (abuse) Up A Child by Michael & D...   [Timestamps] 00:00 - The Power and Control Wheel 04:17 - Toxic family dynamics growing up 10:11 - How the DV started in 2008 16:23 - My mental health and self-harm 19:12 - Love and abuse interconnected 22:20 - The 1st time I saw physical abuse 25:31 - Physical abuse patterns 28:08 - The core conflict between my parents 30:46 - Wild at Heart "Bootcamp" mens conference 32:33 - Emotional abuse and violent intimidation 37:30 - Church mediation (2010) to restraining order (2014) 39:56 - Created to Be His Helpmeet & toxic theology [Background Music] Title: Beautiful Ambient Background https://www.hooksounds.com Image description: After a brief clip of Elly talking, this video begins with a content warning, which says: “Content Warning: Domestic violence and self-harm. Detailed descriptions of psychological, emotional, and physical abuse.” During the rest of the video, Elly- white with brown eyes, shoulder-length brown hair, and wearing an orange button-up shirt- sits on a bed as she talks to the camera. Her black dog is laying on the bed behind her, and the wall is draped with a string of lights. #DomesticViolenceAwarenessMonth #ReligiousTrauma #Exvangelical