„Nie polecam być grzeczną dziewczynką”. Kasia Miller o tym, że intuicja to głos wewnętrznego dziecka

"If we're afraid to be afraid, that's a real problem," says Katarzyna Miller in the premiere episode of the "Coffee Break" series. The cult podcast Zwierciadło returns—for the first time on video—and immediately reaches a level that can't be ignored. Joanna Olekszyk and Katarzyna Miller tackle the inner child: the one we feel, suppress, and shame. This episode is about emotions we've learned to control to the point of detachment, about joy that someone once shamed, and about the child within us that's still trying to break through. The first episode of season 6 begins with a fundamental theme: the inner child. Because—as it turns out—it often guides our entire adult lives. Intuition Has a Child's Voice "Intuition is also the inner child; it's the evian vital energy," says Katarzyna Miller, because what we often try to drown out with rationality, control, and "adulthood" can be the purest compass. The child in us doesn't calculate—it reacts because it feels and knows. The problem begins when we learn not to listen. Someone once said we were overreacting, that "this isn't appropriate," that we need to get a grip. But, as Miller reminds us, "different people react differently to different situations." It sounds simple and brings relief: there is no single right way to experience the world. Fear of Fear The conversation returns to the topic of emotions we try to control—or even eliminate. "If we're afraid to be afraid, that's a real problem," he says. It's not about not being afraid, but about allowing ourselves to be afraid without an added layer of shame. The child in us is naturally afraid. Adults often add judgment to this. That's why the moment when, as Miller says, "I accepted all my feelings" is so important. Not just the comfortable ones. All of them. "I don't recommend being a good girl." A paradox? It's not anger or sadness that are the hardest these days; joy is the hardest. "It's harder to unleash the joyful child within. Why? Because they were constantly being told: 'Why are you so stupidly happy?'" says the psychologist. Many of us remember when our spontaneous joy was shamed, ridiculed, or corrected. That's why today we laugh more quietly. We rejoice more cautiously. And sometimes not at all. The topic of parenting returns in conversation like a refrain. "I don't recommend being a good girl," says Miller, because "goodness" often meant giving up on ourselves: our own needs, boundaries, emotions. Being "easy" for others. And yet, adulthood begins where constant adjustment ends. "For those who don't want me, I won't change myself" – the psychologist's statement sounds like a declaration of freedom. What irritates us says the most about us One of the observations in the episode concerns relationships with children – but it's really about adults. "What irritates us about children is what we weren't allowed to do as children." Their noise, emotionality, spontaneity. It's not that children are "too much," but that we once had to be "too little," and perhaps that's why it's so difficult for us today to allow ourselves to relax and be tender toward ourselves. "How to be a good Moominmother to yourself?" The metaphor isn't accidental; it's about the care and unconditionality we often don't receive in sufficient quantity. Katarzyna Miller says it bluntly: "I live mainly for my child." Not the biological one—but the inner one. It's the child who needs our attention today, our gentleness, and our acceptance of being imperfect. The new season of "Coffee Break" begins with a theme that's difficult to "check off" and move on. It's more of an invitation to a process, because meeting your inner child isn't a one-time event; it's a relationship built daily.