How Human Design Helped Us Stop Taking Each Other's Feelings Personally | Natalie Peace | EP210

In this episode, Chad and April sit down with human design coach Natalie Peace, the same coach who helped them navigate a pivotal turning point in their own relationship. Natalie breaks down what human design actually is, why it's less a belief system and more an invitation to experiment, and how understanding your own wiring (and your partner's) can completely change the way you show up for each other. Then things get personal: Natalie pulls up Chad and April's actual charts live, on camera, and walks through the real differences driving some of their most repeated dynamics, from busyness and pressure to communication styles and self-worth. If you've ever felt like your partner just doesn't get you, or wondered why the same argument keeps resurfacing in a slightly different form, this episode offers a new lens, and a lot of relief. In this interview, you'll learn: • What human design is and why it's best approached as an experiment, not a belief system • Why an emotional partner asking a non-emotional partner to "meet them emotionally" almost never works, and what to do instead • How to tell the difference between your true nature (self) and the conditioning you've absorbed from others (not self) • Why waiting 24 hours (or even 7 days) before responding to a big emotional decision can change everything • How couples who feel like they're "speaking different languages" can finally understand why • Why explaining your nature to your partner isn't making excuses, it's making room for understanding • What it means to have a defined heart center versus an undefined one, and how that shapes self-worth in a relationship • Why opposites attract in relationships, and what it takes to make that dynamic work long term instead of losing yourself in it • How to recognize when you're trying to prove yourself to your partner, and why that pattern often goes unnoticed • What it looks like to take radical accountability for your nature instead of using it as an excuse What We Discuss: 0:00 — Why an emotional person can never get what they need from a non-emotional partner 0:25 — Welcome to Safe to Love | Introducing Natalie Peace and human design 1:25 — What human design actually is (and the mystical origin story behind it) 2:31 — The four basic human design types, explained simply 7:18 — Is there a human design version of "these signs shouldn't date"? 9:02 — Why human design is an invitation to experiment, not a religion 10:14 — The biggest shift Natalie made once she started living by her own design 11:39 — Self vs. not self: the framework that changes how you see your own reactions 16:10 — The man who stared at the exit sign at his own wedding 17:08 — How Natalie actually works with couples, not by telling them who to be 20:14 — Why the emotional person's needs feel unmet, and why that's not their partner's fault 23:37 — "It's not an excuse, it's an explanation": reframing nature instead of blaming it 28:07 — Why the undefined partner feels the emotional wave even stronger than the emotional one 29:14 — Chad's undefined head and mind: why his thoughts feel so loud, and why most of it isn't even his 35:23 — Natalie reads Chad and April's charts live for the first time 38:17 — April's struggle channel and why Chad can never fully "fix" it 39:31 — Defined root vs. undefined root: who actually owns the stress in the room 43:42 — The channel of busyness and charisma: why Chad can't stop filling his calendar 50:00 — Defined throat vs. undefined throat: why April's voice changes depending on who's in the room 53:29 — Defined heart vs. undefined heart: where self-worth actually comes from 1:01:56 — Learning to tell the difference between your own voice and someone else's inside your head 1:04:41 — Role models explained: April the Opportunist and Chad the Hermit 1:13:15 — Natalie's services, where to find her, and her grief support work 1:16:16 — Final advice: stop buying your own b***s*** Follow Natalie on FB and IG @newnormal.bydesign Email: mailto:[email protected] Phone: 801-726-4619 Website: https://vibeznow.com/our-team/#natali... You can also listen to her podcast https://Soulwanderings.com 🔔 Subscribe for more great content and share this with someone who needs to hear it. Ready to get to work on yourself and your own relationship? ❤️ Work With Chad Instagram |   / chadonlove   ❤️ Work with April Instagram |   / aprilbenincosa   Follow or Contact Safe to Love: Email | [email protected] Website | https://www.safetolove.org YouTube |    / @safetoloveshow   Facebook |   / 61585729502802   Instagram |   / safetoloveshow   TikTok |   / safetoloveshow   #SafeToLove #CourageToLove #AprilAndChad #lovestory #relationships #marriage #dating #safeintimacy #emotionalintimacy #emotionalsafety #intimacy #passion #sovereignty