Perversion narcissique : repérer et déjouer l’abus pervers

Perverse abuse stems from the desire to destroy another person in order to avoid suffering. It manifests as an attack on the victim's identity and subjectivity. The abuse of a narcissistic pervert is identified by their questioning of the other person's psychological reality. They reverse roles. They send paradoxical messages. They are recognizable by their denial of rules and boundaries. They revel in the humiliation they inflict. They test and breach their victim's boundaries. They manipulate the victim's emotions to exert control. They prevent the development or expression of the victim's identity. Their perverse abuse is also characterized by its consequences: confusion, dissociation, shock, excessive guilt, self-loathing, doubt of one's perceptions, difficulty setting boundaries, self-sabotage, etc. Countering this abuse requires creating an inner space of safety and connecting with one's inner resources. From this point, it becomes possible to better identify your needs, set boundaries, and allow yourself healthy anger. This involves defining what is non-negotiable for you, and not responding immediately under pressure. Relying on facts and seeking clarification helps to clear the confusion. Seeking support from others fosters inner security. Recognizing the strategic amorality of the narcissistic abuser allows you to protect yourself. To learn more, you can read "Victims of Narcissistic Abusers: Healing the Trauma," published by Ellipses, in the "Stories and Testimonies" or "100 Questions/Answers" series. You can also visit psychotherapie-calonne.be. © All rights reserved: this video may not be used or distributed without the author's permission.