Are You Happy In Your Life or Just With It? Dr. Laurie Santos on Happiness | Dealing With Feeling

We turned happiness into a checklist—and then wondered why it never feels like enough. Dr. Marc Brackett and Dr. Laurie Santos (Yale psychologist and host of The Happiness Lab) talk about the “happiness trap”: miswanting, hyper-focusing on the future, and building a life that looks good on paper while feeling empty on the inside. They unpack what the research actually says moves the needle—social connection (even for introverts), how we spend our time, and what it means to be happy with your life, not just happy in it. Along the way, they explore college pressure, perfectionism, and the emotional toll of treating happiness like another performance metric. Together they unpack: -Why our brains are so bad at predicting what will make us happy (miswanting) -The “hyper-focus on the future” that steals joy from the present -Happy in your life vs happy with your life—and why that distinction matters -Why real social connection keeps showing up as a happiness “superpower” -What studies actually find about introverts and social interaction -Time, attention, and how to build a day that feels better from the inside -How emotional intelligence (and RULER) supports real well-being, not fake positivity What’s one small change you could make this week to feel a little more happy with your life—not just busy in it? Listen to The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos: https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-h... youtube.com Take her free Yale course The Science of Well-Being on Coursera: https://www.coursera.org/learn/the-sc... omny.fm 🔗 Connect with Dr. Marc Brackett: Follow Dr. Brackett on social media for additional insights, behind-the-scenes content, and updates: -Instagram:   / marc.brackett   -X:   / marcbrackett   -Meta:   / drmarcbrackett   -LinkedIn:   / drmarcbrackett   -Website: https://marcbrackett.com Let's embark on this journey of emotional growth and resilience together! #DealingWithFeelings #EmotionRegulation #EmotionalIntelligence #EvidenceBasedStrategies #GuestInterviews #drmarkbrackett A special thank you to the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence for supporting this webcast. I also want to thank Oji Life Lab for their generous support: https://ojilifelab.com. Oji Life Lab is the leader in mastery-centered learning for the workplace. To develop your skills in leadership, emotional intelligence and more, visit oji life lab dot com or click the link in the description of this video and use the promo code DEALINGWITHFEELINGS to save 25%.