Токсичные родители: как перестать их винить и начать жить?

How does our childhood influence our adult life? In this video, psychologist Vladislav Ivanov explores the topic of childhood trauma in detail: how our parents' mistakes "break" us, why we continue to suffer as adults, and, most importantly, how to find a path to healing. Gestalt psychotherapist @Psy_vlad, the son of psychologists and a survivor of emotional abuse in his family, speaks about this openly and without censorship. 00:00 — Announcement 01:13 — Meeting Vladislav Ivanov 02:34 — "I hoped my parents wouldn't see this video" 03:19 — How my father and sister reacted 03:59 — The haircut story: what it really was 08:56 — "Psychologists are the sickest people" 12:18 — Did Vladislav want his parents to admit guilt? 13:09 — "You were a difficult child" — his father's reaction 14:30 — Running away from home at 14 17:53 — What changed after the video's publication 19:18 — "You basically executed them without giving them a chance to justify themselves?" 20:49 — Are there many clients with similar stories? 22:06 — Millennial parents are more traumatized than their parents 23:32 — Why children's memories hold pain for decades 26:52 — Why children choose partners similar to their toxic parents 28:22 — A dictionary of Soviet parenting: "Don't cry," "I am the last letter in the alphabet" 29:55 — Who is more traumatizing—a mother or a father? 31:47 — Why do fathers remain silent when they see their mother's aggression? 32:14 — Should children love their parents? 36:07 — Is it normal to break off relations with parents? 37:12 — "We fed and clothed you" — should children pay this debt? 39:00 — Why do parents say "it never happened"? 42:10 — Why do people defend toxic parents for years? 43:00 — The moment Vladislav realized his childhood was abnormal? 46:09 — How to talk to a toxic parent? 49:32 — Is it okay to shame a child for wrongdoing? 52:06 — Punishment: How to do it right? 55:38 — "Just forgive your parents" — Why it doesn't work? 56:52 — Does psychotherapy work if the pain doesn't go away? 59:26 — The line between "difficult childhood" and "need a psychologist"? 1:00:23 — Grandmothers survived the war without therapy. Have we become weaker? 1:04:35 — What Vladislav is afraid of when he becomes a father 1:05:24 — What Vladislav would tell himself at 14 1:05:50 — How to live with such parents Vladislav Ivanov: Telegram — https://t.me/Psy_vlady Alexey Shakhmatov: Telegram — https://t.me/kak_zhit_dalche Instagram* —   / alshakhmatov   Zen -- https://dzen.ru/kak_zhit_dalshe — Meta, recognized as extremist and banned in Russia #psychology #childhoodtrauma #vladislavivanov #selfdevelopment #therapy #howtolive