Motherhood Isn't the Hardest Job in the World | The Filter That Changes How You See Everything Hard

Somewhere along the way, "this is hard" became the highest compliment we paid motherhood. Lorissa and Alex get into why hard-versus-easy is the wrong filter entirely, what they would put in its place, and why calling motherhood the hardest job in the world might be doing moms more harm than good. What We Cover → The filter Alex uses instead of hard-versus-easy, and why it changes how you see almost every decision → Why Lorissa won't call motherhood the hardest job in the world, and the reframe she uses instead → The thing a first-time mom said to Lorissa in a group that she still thinks about years later → The pushback against discipline, and why Alex isn’t buying it Know it's worth it and still not getting to it? You can decide something's worth doing and want to do it, but still watch it get buried under all of the other million things you have going on. The first step is getting a handle on your mental load. Get it all out of your head and into a system that helps you prioritize and know what’s getting done, when. Alex made a free training that breaks down exactly how she manages the mental load. Watch here → https://go.alexpayetta.com/training Lorissa's List Lorissa's curated list of the products, services, and providers actually worth your time, all vetted to a higher standard so you can skip the search. 👉 https://lorissaviolet.com Connect With Us Lorissa Violet https://lorissaviolet.com |   / lorissaviolet   Alex Payetta https://alexpayetta.com |   / alexpayetta   Timestamps 0:00 Catching up, and the reel that sparked it all 0:48 Why hard-versus-easy is the wrong filter 1:35 "I don't think motherhood is the hardest job in the world" 3:06 The blanket comparisons we use to validate moms, and why they don't hold up 7:18 The comparison trap, and the benefit lens that breaks it 7:51 Why your hardest moments are also your most rewarding ones 10:34 The mom group, the emergency vet, and saying the unpopular thing 14:11 The pushback against discipline neither of them is buying 15:20 When looking for things to be mad about becomes the whole problem