Ep #09: The Click — and Why You’ll Never Finally Arrive (But Keep Going Anyway)

Most men arrive at a retreat, a workshop, or a pilgrimage to the mentor with the same silent demand underneath everything else: make it click. They’ve read the books, done the programs, sat through the silent retreats. They’re well-theorized. Now they want it to land — permanently, finally, done. In this episode, recorded the Friday before Zan’s ten-day training week in Bucharest, Zan and Jordan pull apart what the click actually is, whether it’s even possible to engineer it, and what to do in the long dark stretches when nothing clicks at all. They get into the man who travels across the world for ten days hoping something will permanently shift — and why the pressure of that hope is exactly what blocks it. Jordan’s 19-year-old diary, rediscovered in a childhood bedroom: three months backpacking Southeast Asia, parties until sunrise, pages of email addresses from strangers across the world — and a pervasive feeling throughout all of it that he was lonely and missing out. The spiral of workshop-after-workshop that kicks in when nothing clicks and a man decides he must be broken. And Zan’s answer to the question everyone asks him: when did you finally get it? I never did. I’m still trying. Watch until the end for Jordan’s biggest click — the one that freed him from second-guessing every interaction — and the homework Zan and Jordan leave you with. 🔗 A Full Year - Retreats, Community, Virtual Practice - to Forever Change your Interactions with Women: http://www.arsamorata.com/guild/ __________________________________________________ #zanperrion #fearofintimacy #dating #mendating #flirting #datingadviceformen #flirttips #relationship #jealousy ____________________________________________________ Need a gunslinger? Someone who rides into town, completely solves your problem, then rides off into the sunset. Contact Zan Perrion personally to inquire about his incredibly effective one-on-one Laser Coaching. Find him here: https://arsamorata.com/gunslinger/ __________________________________ Get instant access to our 4 part mini-course with Zan Perrion 🎁 : https://amorati.me/free-gift/ __________________________________ Join our newsletter here & get all our latest: https://arsamorata.com/#joincommunity __________________________________________________ ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure. Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you. Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my view, beauty is neither. It is neither inherent as a property of the object (the objective view) nor is it in the eye of the beholder (the subjective view). Beauty is a third thing altogether. Beauty is prime. It stands alone. It is a thing apart, in Kant's words: a Thing-In-Itself (Ding an sich). Beauty emanates from what Aristotle called the Unmoved Mover, what Plotinus called The One, what scientists call the Big Bang, and what John in the New Testament called the Word or Logos. Ars Amorata is an attempt to lift Beauty to its rightful place as the primary guiding principle in our hearts and in the world. __________________________________ Visit the Ars Amorata WEBSITE: http://www.ArsAmorata.com Visit the Zan Perrion WEBSITE: http://www.ZanPerrion.com Join our Ars Amorata group on FACEBOOK:   / 1bid..  . __________________________________________________ Copyright ©️ 2026 Alabaster Communications Inc. All rights reserved. Ars Amorata ®, The Amorati ®, Casa Amorata ®, and the Amorati logo are all registered trademarks of Ars Amorata International SRL.