Ep #13: Overthinking (What’s going on with this girl I’m trying to date?)

You go for a drink with a buddy, and he unloads what’s happened with his girl. A lot of push-pull, ignored texts, mood swings, drama. He wonders what’s going through her mind, and enlists your help in figuring her out too. What do you say? Do you engage your own anxious brainwaves, and try and decipher her motives? Or do you tackle the real issue on display: Never mind the woman… what’s going on with you? I don’t believe pondering a woman’s motives and feelings is entirely a fool’s game. But it’s amazing how men get caught in this loop. All day, all month, thinking of her, wondering what to text, how to approach the issue, how to get what you want without losing the little you already have. We all know what happens when we overthink things. Action ends up awkward. Whatever we end up saying or doing, it seems to drive her away. When it comes to drama, pulling away, mixed messages, heightened emotions, many men feel a subtle distress. And it’s the distress that drives these endless questions. What if, instead of the week lost chasing her in your mind, you could find tranquility amidst the storm? Today’s episode is about exactly that. Because in the end, 90% of drama resolves by itself. Let her unravel and come to you in good time. __________________________________________________ If you're working with the patterns of a lifetime, and want to learn to hold yourself steady when desire and drama collide: I'm running a small private coaching afternoon called Desire in the Afternoon. An intimate consultation about your past, present and future with desire, lust, and love. DITA is a breakthrough session for a man dedicated to finding mastery in the themes of attraction and love. Oxford — Saturday June 27. Paris — Saturday July 4. Max. three seats per city. Details and application here: https://desireintheafternoon.carrd.co/ Or, to go all in with me and Zan for a full calendar year, join The Guild: https://arsamorata.com/guild ~ Jordan __________________________________________________ #zanperrion #fearofintimacy #dating #mendating #flirting #datingadviceformen #flirttips #relationship #jealousy #attraction #menandwomen #bodylanguage ____________________________________________________ Need a gunslinger? Someone who rides into town, completely solves your problem, then rides off into the sunset. Contact Zan Perrion personally to inquire about his incredibly effective one-on-one Laser Coaching. Find him here: https://arsamorata.com/gunslinger/ __________________________________ Get instant access to our 4 part mini-course with Zan Perrion 🎁 : https://amorati.me/free-gift/ __________________________________ Join our newsletter here & get all our latest: https://arsamorata.com/#joincommunity __________________________________________________ ARS AMORATA is a celebration of the art of seduction, the rebirth of romance, and a lifelong quest for beauty and adventure. Ars Amorata is a philosophy of beauty. It is a way of life. It is not a religion. It is a belief system, similar to the way one might call Stoicism a belief system or a way of life. It is a layer that exists (or not) below all religion and all social structures. And it belongs to all of you. Philosophers throughout the ages have argued whether beauty is objective or subjective, but in my view, beauty is neither. It is neither inherent as a property of the object (the objective view) nor is it in the eye of the beholder (the subjective view). Beauty is a third thing altogether. Beauty is prime. It stands alone. It is a thing apart, in Kant's words: a Thing-In-Itself (Ding an sich). Beauty emanates from what Aristotle called the Unmoved Mover, what Plotinus called The One, what scientists call the Big Bang, and what John in the New Testament called the Word or Logos. Ars Amorata is an attempt to lift Beauty to its rightful place as the primary guiding principle in our hearts and in the world. __________________________________ Visit the Ars Amorata WEBSITE: http://www.ArsAmorata.com Visit the Zan Perrion WEBSITE: http://www.ZanPerrion.com Join our Ars Amorata group on FACEBOOK: / 1bid.. . __________________________________________________ Copyright ©️ 2026 Alabaster Communications Inc. All rights reserved. Ars Amorata ®, The Amorati ®, Casa Amorata ®, and the Amorati logo are all registered trademarks of Ars Amorata International SRL.