Ты боишься НЕ людей. Ты боишься собственной агрессии

Many people think they're afraid of conflict, other people's reactions, or communication, but in reality, a deeper fear often lies in their own aggression: the fear of saying "no," defending themselves, getting angry, being inconvenient, or appearing bad. In this video, we explore why suppressed anger turns into anxiety, resentment, guilt, and self-criticism; how comfort gradually robs a person of their inner support; and why aggression, in a healthy sense, isn't destructive, but rather the ability to defend one's boundaries, desires, and the right to be on one's own side. 📌Details of the "Emotional Dependence" course: https://t.me/emozavis/132 📌Sign up for a course or consultation: https://t.me/DmitryPsych 📌Consultation details: https://dmitryantipov.ru 📌Access all my psychological materials on Boosty: https://boosty.to/dmitryantipov 📌How to withstand pressure after rejection: https://boosty.to/dmitryantipov/posts... 📌Why is it hard to say NO? How to avoid making excuses for defending your personal boundaries: https://boosty.to/dmitryantipov/posts... 📌The book "Kill the Nice Guy" on Boosty: https://boosty.to/dmitryantipov/posts... 📌Lecture on procrastination and postponing life: https://boosty.to/dmitryantipov/posts... 📌 "WAY OF THE SAMURAI" course: https://boosty.to/dmitryantipov/posts... 📌Access to all my psychological materials on Tribute (foreign cards accepted): https://t.me/tribute/app?startapp=sr6v 📌How to join the closed Telegram channel "Antipov+": https://t.me/dmitrygoodbiz/2640 My name is Dmitry Antipov: I have a Master's degree in Psychology and am a member of the Association of Cognitive-Behavioral Psychotherapy. Timestamps: 00:00 — You're not afraid of people, but of your own aggression 01:48 — Why are you afraid to defend yourself 04:02 — Aggression is not what you think 06:00 — Without aggression, it's impossible to say "no" 08:51 — Why suppressed anger turns into anxiety 11:20 — What happens when you constantly tolerate 15:09 — Resentment is suppressed aggression 17:06 — When aggression turns against you 23:10 — Are you kind or just helpless? 26:47 — Why are you so afraid to say no? 28:47 — The Convenient Person Trap 30:17 — "Nice Girls" and "Nice Guys" 31:17 — How You Teach People to Use You 33:12 — Why Convenient People Become Dependent 35:09 — You're Afraid of Becoming a Bad Person 37:55 — Toxic Shame: "Something's Wrong with Me" 41:44 — The Myth That Breaks Good People 44:39 — Emotions Are Information, Not Enemies 48:26 — How to Set Boundaries Without Harshness 51:18 — Aggression Is the Opposite of Helplessness 52:12 — What Changes When You Stop Fearing Your Power