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Leaving a toxic relationship is really just the beginning of the fight for your new (better) life. A toxic person won't let you go so easily. How can you defend yourself against their continued manipulation? Did you enjoy the video? Support my channel: https://www.psychologianawynos.pl/wsp... I'm recording this video today for people who want to end an abusive relationship. I think you need to hear about it, because practically everyone who wants to break free from a toxic relationship will struggle with this issue. When you're looking for escape and want to fight for yourself, meaning you want to leave, you need to remember that two things can happen: the toxic partner will try to keep you in the relationship at all costs if you leave, the toxic partner will try to drag you back into the relationship Today I'll tell you about the manipulation methods used by toxic people and how to defend yourself against such manipulation by using the No Contact Rule. Recently, I talked about how a toxic relationship is a trap that's difficult to escape. A toxic partner will do anything to ensure that nothing in your life changes, to keep them in control, to keep their life comfortable. They may notice that you're gathering the strength to leave (even if you hide it). How might a toxic person try to keep you? From seemingly positive behaviors to true evil (aggression, violence) a period of peace – we're now experiencing better days (slivers of happiness, fueling your hope – he finally understands, he'll finally change, everything will be alright) a seeming change – he promises to change (go to therapy); He also shows you a false change (promises to buy you a vacation, organizes a date) – he often uses positive memories from the past (your places, your songs) Seeking allies – calling your loved ones (parents, siblings, friends) Taking away your lifeline – you started working to become financially independent before leaving, and he will do everything to make you quit; he will try to set you up for a fight with your family or the friend you were supposed to run away to Threats or expressions of helplessness – if you leave, I won't be able to handle it and I'll hurt myself (you won't forgive yourself for that) Increased violence and aggression (emotional, physical, mental) – to further undermine your self-confidence and show you how weak you are and that you won't cope (a desperate attack – you see this if you have enough strength) A toxic person won't give up easily when you have the strength to leave. He will do everything to get you back. He wants to regain his comfortable life and sense of control. Very often, it's also about some form of revenge, because he intends to punish you if you return to him. You need to learn the most common emotional games a toxic person uses to get you back: constantly seeking contact (text messages, phone calls, Facebook messages) – any excuse is good (I want to give you something back, I want to take something, I want to arrange something – a phone contract) playing on emotions related to memories (sending songs, photos, souvenirs) showing that he understands his mistake (stoking hope) – I know I hurt you saying what you've been waiting for – I miss you, I love you, you're the one, I'd do anything for you directly promising change – come back to me and I'll change, I need some time and work on myself blaming an external situation – it was my job that caused us to drift apart because I was constantly stressed, now I'll quit and we'll fix everything (showing I'm not mad at all) feeling guilty – you can't do this to me, I'll do something to myself because of you, I started drinking again You'll ruin my life if you leave (I've sacrificed so much for you). Seeking support from your family and friends – calling various people, visiting them, and berating them: telling them how bad he feels, or how angry you are and how you've hurt him. Trying to make you jealous – dating someone close to you (this has a very strong effect on some people, especially if your feelings for the toxic person haven't died down yet). The toxic person uses various manipulations to get you back. To free yourself from a toxic partner, follow the No Contact Rule. The idea is to set aside a period of time after leaving when you avoid contact with your ex-partner in every possible way. If you establish a no-contact policy and keep your word, you'll feel in control of your life – but remember, it won't be easy. The No Contact Rule comes in two forms: Don't seek contact with them (even for important matters that can wait) Block their attempts at contact at all costs Why is the No Contact Rule effective? It protects you from the influence of a toxic partner who knows how to pull strings to play on your emotions (hope, guilt) It protects you from yourself (doubt, fear, loneliness)