TRAPPOLE MENTALI, INTELLIGENZA EMOTIVA e REGOLAZIONE | con la psicoterapeuta Laura Fino

💭 "If he really knew me, he should understand without me telling him." "I know exactly what he thinks of me." "That's definitely why he acted that way." Sound familiar? This type of thinking is one of the most common mental traps that sabotage our relationships. 🎥 And today we're talking about it in the first LIVE episode of the Essere Serena Podcast! In this conversation, we explore the 10 pillars of emotional intelligence, how to recognize and regulate difficult emotions, and how to transform unrealistic expectations into authentic needs to communicate. 🧘🏻‍♀️ And at the end, we'll also do a guided Body Awareness exercise, to move from Head to Body together! - 👉🏼 Subscribe to my channel @essereserena for content on mental, emotional, and relational well-being. - 🧠 Joining me is Laura Fino – psychologist, psychotherapist, supervisor, and teacher at the Mara Selvini school – an expert in emotional intelligence who has created a manifesto on the 10 fundamental pillars for cultivating awareness, authenticity, and relational skills. - 🎥 Chapters 00:00 – The mental trap of believing you know what others are thinking 02:00 – What does emotional intelligence really mean 04:30 – Goleman's 5 pillars + Laura Fino's 5 new pillars 08:10 – The risk of becoming rigid with yourself and the need for control 08:45 – Fragility and resources: how to recognize them and make them your allies 10:10 – Do triggers disappear sooner or later? 11:00 AM – The Importance of Learning to Validate Emotions 2:50 PM – How to Avoid Emotionally Overload 10:00 PM – Regulating Emotions (Not Managing Them): The Difference That Changes Everything 11:00 PM – Trauma and Harry Potter: The Scar Metaphor 10:00 PM – Co-Regulation: Helping Others Return to Balance 12:00 PM – How to Heal Emotional Scars 12:00 PM – Violence That Starts from Not Validating One's Feelings 12:00 PM – Emotions as a Compass: Fear, Sadness, Disgust, Joy 13:00 PM – Beginner's Mind: The Principle of Mindfulness 13:00 PM – The Lenses That Limit Us: Beliefs from the Past 13:00 PM – Fortune Teller Thinking: The Trap of Believing You Know What Others Think 14:00 PM – Guilt vs. Responsibility: Transforming Burdens into Choices 14:00 PM – The Only People We Can Change Us 47:00 – The 10 Pillars in Relationship: How They Interact 48:00 – Guided Practice: Body Scan and Mindful Breathing 52:00 – Closing: The Manifesto on Emotional Intelligence - 🎧 LISTEN TO MY PODCAST • Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0jEjkDX... • Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/es-co/podcas... • Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... 📱 FOLLOW MY PROJECT • Instagram:   / essereserena   • TikTok:   / essereserena   • Blog and Newsletter: https://essereserena.substack.com/ 🪷 FOLLOW LAURA FINO • Her website: https://www.laurafino.it/ • Her manifesto on emotional intelligence: https://www.laurafino.it/perche-un-ma... • Her TEDx talk:    • Intelligenza Emotiva. La rivoluzione che c...   • Her Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/finolaura/?...

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