The Manosphere Didn’t Ruin These Marriages… It Exposed Them

Hey Sis, there’s a narrative forming right now from the New York Post's recent article: women are leaving their husbands because of the manosphere. Because of podcasts. Because of “alpha male” ideology. But what if that’s not the full truth? In this week's video essay , I break down what’s really behind the rise in what people are calling “manosphere divorces”—and why the content itself may not be the root cause. Because here’s the uncomfortable question no one is asking: what if the manosphere didn’t create these men, what if it simply revealed them? We’re seeing more women walk away from relationships that once felt stable. Not because something appeared overnight, but because something that was always there is now impossible to ignore. This is about patterns. This is about clarity. This is about what happens when women stop explaining away behaviour they can now clearly see. If you’ve ever found yourself questioning a shift in a man’s behaviour… If you’ve felt that quiet instability but couldn’t quite name it… If you’ve realised something “changed” but don’t believe it actually did… This conversation is for you. 00:01:55 why the New York Post's article is key for BW 00:02:00 Is BM's behaviour down to the manosphere alone? 00:03:43 my disclaimer about BM 00:04:33 what the New York Post shows us 00:07:36 why does this resonate with him? 00:08:26 does the Blk Manosphere just teach behaviour? 00:09:59 the "white surgeon" 00:11:08 note for BW and femicide rates 00:15:02 come join the BW's circle on zoom For the written version of this essay on Substack it's here 👇🏾 https://notesonblackwomen.substack.co... You can subscribe to Notes on Black Women on Substack here 👇🏾 https://notesonblackwomen.substack.co... WOMEN'S CIRCLE DETAILS👇🏾 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/notes-on... VIDEOS MENTIONED    • Here's What The BM's Manosphere Ideas & Na...   🤎 For Black Women (Deeper Work + Daily Notes) If this resonated, I write deeper, more intentional reflections for Black women across the diaspora on my Substack, Notes on Black Women This is where we go beyond surface level conversations into patterns, behaviour shifts, emotional clarity, and building a life that actually feels like yours. You can join here: 👉 https://notesonblackwomen.substack.com/ NEW YORK POST ARTICLE👇🏾 https://nypost.com/2026/05/05/lifesty... Help me support BW and girls who are r**pe victims in Congo, being harmed as part of BM's "war stratergy." I have a fundraiser for 500 USD to help 80 women become a "Guardian and Protector of BW and Girls" with me 👇🏾 https://giving.womenforwomen.org/page... Have you tried Mented Cosmetics a Black, female owned make-up brand? Their matte lipsticks and eyeshadows are to die for, use my code online at the check out for a 10% discount 👇🏾 code: C0B75E7BFA9 Check them out here: https://www.mentedcosmetics.com/the-b... #blackwoman #manosphere #women #divorce #modernliving #relationships #dating #advice #toxicrelationships #masculinityisnottoxic #softlife #feminineenergy