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#WhenYourSelfEsteemIsAtFire #WhenYouFeelIgnoredByPeopleAroundYou My hand holding the phone begins to ache. That person who poured out nothing but their own story for over an hour, tossing out a single remark like, "Yeah, you need to rest too," and hanging up. After putting the phone down, the person I was angry at wasn't that person, but myself, who had put up with it. Two hundred years ago, Schopenhauer said this: "We give up three-quarters of ourselves to become like others." Three-quarters is almost everything. But if someone is tearing down even that remaining quarter, what is left? In this video, we discuss 6 relationship patterns that quietly destroy self-esteem, the wisdom of human relationships that Schopenhauer learned through experience, and 3 specific ways to protect yourself. 🔑 This is a story essential for those who: ㆍThose for whom long-standing relationships are becoming increasingly heavy ㆍThose who feel drained rather than recharged after meeting ㆍThose who were taught that enduring is what it means to be an adult, but are now exhausted ㆍThose who are hurt more deeply because they are family 📚 References and Sources ㆍArthur Schopenhauer — “The Wisdom of the Art of Living”, “The World as Will and Representation” ㆍSchopenhauer’s Hedgehog Dilemma ㆍStanford University — Research on Negative Emotion Exposure and Hippocampal Damage ㆍAsan Medical Center Mental Health Column — Sunk Costs and Self-Esteem ㆍSamyutta Nikaya — The Parable of the Second Arrow ⏱️ Timeline 00:00 Intro — 10 PM, the hand holding the phone starts to ache 03:08 Schopenhauer’s Warning — Three-quarters of oneself 04:30 First — People who trample on me under the guise of a joke 11:50 Second — You are not a call center employee 21:20 Third — Not comfort It is showing off 28:00 Fourth — You get cut deeper because they are family 35:30 The story of Schopenhauer's mother 40:10 Fifth — Enduring for 30 years was a sunk cost 48:00 Sixth — Understanding and acceptance are different 53:30 3 specific ways to protect yourself 57:00 Wrap-up — Do not shoot the second arrow #Schopenhauer #ProtectingSelfEsteem #OrganizingRelationships #EmotionalTrashCan #HedgehogDilemma #HowToProtectMyself #ToxicRelationships #SunkCostPsychology #SeniorSelfEsteem #WhispersOfGiants #CharacteristicsOfPeopleWhoEatAwayFromSelfEsteem #SchopenhauerRelationshipQuotes #HowToDealWithFriendsWhoBrushYou #HowToBreakOffEmotionallyDrainingRelationships #HowToEndLongTimedFriendships #WhenSelfEsteemLowersBecauseOfFamily #SunkCostRelationshipPsychology #AppropriateDistanceForHedgehogDilemma #OrganizingRelationshipsFor50sAnd60s #HowToDealWithFriendsWhoSpreadSecrets ✨ We share life wisdom every week. Please join us by subscribing and liking. ⓒ Giant's Whisper