Did Purity Culture Cause Developmental Trauma--and Kill Libido?

It's episode 319 of Bare Marriage! What if the reason so many women struggle with desire, arousal, and orgasm has nothing to do with their bodies—and everything to do with what they were taught before they even wanted to be sexual? In this episode, Rebecca and I pull together research and real-life stories to trace a thread that runs from how we raise our daughters, to what happens on the wedding night, to why so many women are secretly faking it. *THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR* To Heal or Harm: Scripture's Use as Poison or Medicine for Abuse Survivors by Dr. Steven Tracy. How to refute it when Bible verses are weaponized! https://amzn.to/4rSYkZu *TO SUPPORT US* Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work   / baremarriage   Donate through the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation: https://baremarriage.com/give-through... And check out our Merch, or any of our courses! https://sheilawraygregoire.com/shop/ SIGN UP for our weekly emails--Rebecca writes them, and they're amazing! https://baremarriage.com/join-the-new... *LINKS MENTIONED* The Orgasm Course: https://baremarriage.com/the-orgasm-c... The Boost Your Libido Course: http://baremarriage.com/boost-libido-... The Great Sex Rescue: https://baremarriage.com/great-sex-re... The Good Girl's Guide/Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex: https://baremarriage.com/good-girls-g... Watch the Love & Respect Docuseries! Episode 1    • Happily Never After: The Curious Case of L...   Episode 2    • Does this book get ANYTHING right? A Love ...   Episode 3    • Is Emerson Eggerichs the Wounding Healer? ...   Journal Article on Mother's Transmission of Sexual Attitudes: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/38629... Journal Article on Women Speaking up During Sex: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/... Instagram Thread by Ally Jolie: https://www.instagram.com/p/DRX2yDQDC... *TIMELINE* 00:00 Welcome, introduction, & why you should join our Patreon group(hint: we read books!) 4:02 Exhibit A: The Three Types of Sexual Passion (Research Breakdown) 13:22 Exhibit B: The Somatic Psychologist's Thread on Developmental Sexual Trauma 24:12 Wedding Night Statistics: What the Data Actually Shows 30:00 Exhibit C: Why Women Feel Pressure To Protect Male Egos 39:13 Exhibit D: What a critic’s Comment Says About Obligation Sex 59:35 We Want People To Have More In Their Marriages & Sex Lives 1:02:06 Resource Flowchart: Which Bare Marriage Resource Is Right for You? 1:04:58 Closing Thoughts