Why your mom gets worse when you set a boundary

Three days ago, Claire asked her mom for one small thing, call before you come over. By Thursday, Denise is standing on the porch with a casserole, ringing the bell for the third time, and by Friday, three different relatives have called Claire to tell her she's the one being cruel. And this is the exact moment almost everyone makes the same boundary setting mistake... Hi 👋 I'm Jess, your boundary big sister and a licensed therapist for nearly fifteen years, and I've helped people hold the line with parents they love without burning the relationship to the ground. Here's what I want you to understand today. When you finally say no to an over-involved parent and they get worse, that spike is proof your boundary landed. There's a name for what's happening to Denise on that porch, it's been studied for decades, and there's a machine you've stood in front of a hundred times that explains the whole thing. Stay with me for that part because it changes what you do next. WHAT WE COVER IN THIS VIDEO ✅ Why setting boundaries with parents makes them push harder before they back off ✅The one night almost everyone caves, and what caving quietly teaches your mom to do next time ✅The release of the minion mob, and why your parent never has to ask anyone to call you ✅Guilt tripping from family members, and the exact words that step you out of the ring ✅Why your body folds even when your head knows you're right How to tell the storm is finally ending Resource Mentioned: The Boundary Breakthrough Toolkit, short audio tools and a fourteen day plan for the part of you that panics when your mom starts to cry: ➡️ https://myboundaries.samcart.com/prod... RELATED SEARCHES: Setting boundaries with parents, setting boundaries with family, boundaries and guilt, how to deal with guilt when setting boundaries, why does my mom get worse when I set a boundary, overbearing mother, overbearing mother in law, enmeshment with parents, emotionally immature mother, emotionally immature parents, people pleasing, how to stop feeling guilty for saying no, family guilt trip, mom won't stop dropping by unannounced, therapist explains. #Boundaries #SettingBoundaries #FamilyDynamics #EmotionallyImmatureParents #Enmeshment #Guilt #Therapist #MindYourBoundaries Disclaimer: While Jessica is a licensed therapist, she's not your therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended to replace the advice of medical or licensed professionals. Music Credit: Sad Cinematic Piano Mind Your Boundaries Disclaimer: The content provided on this platform is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. It does not constitute personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or create a counselor-client relationship. The topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting, you must do so with the understanding that we cannot control reactions or responses from others who may not agree with you or may feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, and you accept full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used to discuss or endorse the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are their personal views. Although we take precautions and fact-check information, they should not be considered facts, and opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before acting.