The hardest attachment style

❓Don’t jump to conclusions on this one, because the answer may surprise you! 🤔I know most people will automatically think, yep the dismissive avoidant. WRONG! It’s actually the fearful avoidant who leans dismissive, which if you’ve been watching any of my content you already know that the dismissive avoidant and the fearful avoidant who leans dismissive are very different. 🗣️So let’s talk about the FA that leans dismissive and the typical behaviors that you see from them. 1️⃣Super reactivity. This can look like you bringing up a need and them immediately becoming defensive and reactive and blowing up. Usually slamming doors, yelling, huffing and puffing, or at times punching holes in the wall. 2️⃣Stonewalling. So after their blow up, then they just completely put up a wall. They may even go days and not wanna talk to you. This is their avoidant side. This is when all the feelings and thoughts of “this relationship just isn’t right for me, “I just need to get out of this relationship” and lots of ruminating thoughts about what their partner said or did come up for them. 3️⃣Last but certainly not least, BIG T TRAUMAS!! The FA who leans avoidant tends to have the most complex trauma out of all the attachment styles. This is usually someone who was maybe the oldest sibling and had a lot of parentification as a child, making them hyper independent but yet not able to openly express emotions due to the fact of having to be too responsible for others. They usually experienced BIG T TRAUMAS as a child. Like maybe the death of a parent at a young age, or a parent who had mental illness or addictions. •Bottom line this attachment has the most nuances of all the attachment styles and therefore tends to be the most difficult to deal with. •I know what you’re thinking, and you’re probably saying to yourself, “yea this sounds like narcissism,” but watch until the end to understand the difference between attachment wounds and narcissism. •Better yet, if you really wanna learn more sign up now for one of my October groups! Both the 10/2 group and 10/16 group are now open for enrollment, but spots are limited so grab yours now. #attachment #fearfulavoidant #dismissive