虐待（されていた人）の特徴と治療のポイント #虐待

01:21 Feature 1: Low self-esteem 02:43 Feature 2: Unable to trust people 04:31 Feature 3: Unable to feel safe 07:28 Feature 4: Immature on the inside 08:20 Treatment *This is an edited version of the video released on February 1, 2021. Today, I will explain the "characteristics of people who have experienced abuse". I am not saying that all people who have been abused are like this, but I will say that they have these characteristics due to the abuse and need to improve through treatment. Of course, there are many people who overcome it on their own or with the help of those around them, but those who come to the psychiatric clinic and continue to have problems with abuse have the characteristics I will describe today, and we are working to improve them through treatment. ■Characteristic 1: Low self-esteem People who have been abused by their parents have low self-esteem. They may become active in an attempt to make a sudden turnaround because they feel that they have low value, turn to speculative behavior such as gambling, or over-adapt in an attempt to behave seriously in order to increase their value even a little. Or, there are also cases where a person is completely unable to act due to low self-esteem. One moment you think they are doing great, and the next, they suddenly become unable to move from their bed. When they are unable to move, they are asked, "Am I manic-depressive?" or "Am I depressed?", but we often explain that the main problem is not this, but the original abuse. They are often confused, but as the treatment progresses, they often understand. ■Characteristic 2: Unable to trust people They have difficulty trusting people, and feel that they must repay excessively to those who are kind to them. They may go out of their way to give money or sexual favours, and those who are kind to them may end up getting too much. When they see them in a difficult situation, they enter a negative loop, thinking, "After all, they hate me," or "I am worthless." If you feel this way, you will end up trusting the wrong people. Normally, if you receive too much, you will be in trouble because you cannot repay, but bad people will try to squeeze as much out of you as possible. Relationships with such people feel strangely comfortable. Even if others say, "Why would you trust someone like that?", it only works between the person and that person. In this way, they tend to trust bad people. ■Characteristic 3: Not feeling secure Because they feel uneasy in their daily lives, they are very anxious and impatient about what will happen in the future. They are obsessed with wanting a manual for life, and are easily caught up in authority, new religions, and pyramid schemes. Humans tend to have a negative image of the future, but the future will definitely be bright. Simply put, it is because science and technology will improve and people's lives will become richer. Looking at Japan alone, there is an image that things will get worse because of the problem of aging and other issues, and Japan's ranking among developed countries will fall relative to other developed countries, but that is not the case and it will become easier to live. For example, I opened my clinic three years ago, and overtime was common at the time. At the time, I was open until 10 p.m., the latest in Tokyo, so that working people could easily come to see me, but about a year after opening, the "work style reform" began and things have changed dramatically since then. Now, the clinic is open until 8 p.m., but there are still very few patients in the 7 p.m. hour. I think the world is getting better. Remote work and self-driving cars will also progress, and information can be shared for free on YouTube. But they don't understand that. ■Characteristic 4: Immature on the inside Even if they wear a crisp suit and appear solid on the outside, they are very immature on the inside. Their image of happiness is flat and poor, such as "I'm a happy person if I have a house and a car." Because of this, it is difficult to apply, so the key to treatment is how to cultivate inner richness. ■Treatment How do you treat trauma problems? There are treatments such as EMDR that directly dig into the trauma, but generally, it's like bringing the above four points closer to a normal person one by one. If they have low self-esteem, I will repeatedly tell them "You should not trust that person, that person is trustworthy." If they have made a mistake with who they should trust, I will tell them "That person should not be trusted, that person is trustworthy." Their worries about the future are unfounded, so I will convey the opinion of a normal adult, "Isn't it okay?" If I feel like I'm being deceived by a multi-level marketing scheme, I'll tell you normally. Doing things like that will help you develop something inside, so I try to evaluate that. --------- Explaining abuse and developmental disorders    • 虐待と発達障害について解説します【精神科医が一般の方向けに病気や治療を解説するCh】   ----------...