Capire se è la persona giusta per te: 5 consigli psicologici

Figuring out if the person you're dating is right for you can be difficult and stressful. At Mindcenter, we can guide you through a customized program to explore the issues you care about. Click here to book: https://bit.ly/mindcenterkit 00:00 Intro Understanding if the person you're dating is the right one and knowing whether a relationship has a solid future is essential to avoid investing energy in a relationship that doesn't bring us satisfaction. 5️⃣ In this masterclass, I'll give you 5 psychological tips on this topic. 00:45 My method The approach I'll use today is the same one we use at Mindcenter, integrating personal growth, psychotherapy, and coaching, and aims to address psychological issues with depth and practicality. 01:35 Masterclass Stages 02:33 Disclaimer ❤️‍🩹 In this video, we won't talk about dysfunctional or toxic relationships. Faced with these feelings, there's no room to analyze whether the relationship has a future. Personal well-being and safety must be your top priority. If these foundations are missing, my suggestion is to seek immediate support to address the situation. 03:30 Falling in Love VS Love ❌ Falling in love and love are not the same thing. When falling in love, it's easy to think you've found the right person. Falling in love is an explosive phase where we tend to see the other person in an idealized way, focusing solely on the positive aspects of the person we're getting to know. Love, on the other hand, takes time to develop and consolidate. By managing difficulties and sharing experiences, you can see the person as a whole, discern their limitations, and determine whether you're compatible in the long run. Give the relationship the time it needs to evolve and evaluate whether the person you're dealing with is the right one for you. 7:37 Dreams or plans? 💭 Dreams are the sum of our desires, fantasies, and romanticized visions that fuel the initial excitement of a relationship. Dreams often don't take into account the complexity of real life. 🗓️ Plans, on the other hand, are based on practical considerations, are anchored in reality, and are grounded in a person's long-term values ​​and ambitions. Plans require thoughtful reflection. While dreams fuel the euphoria of the moment, plans are what determine the success of a relationship. In the video, you'll find questions you can ask your partner to discover their plans. 3:34 What does love really mean? ❓Ask yourself: What does my partner mean when they say "I love you"? What value do they place on our relationship? Everyone has their own idea of ​​love, shaped by factors like upbringing, culture... differences, if not addressed, can lead to misunderstandings. 🗣️Knowing the respective meanings of love can allow you to build bridges, useful points of connection for your relationship. 8:38 PM Balancing personal goals and life as a couple 🎯 What are your personal goals? And what are your partner's goals? In a healthy relationship, it's important to have two-way support for your personal goals. To understand if your relationship is leading you in the direction of personal growth, in the video I've left you with some questions to help you understand if this is the right person for you and if your relationship has the solid foundation to last over time. 24:14 Values ​​Matter 🧭Values ​​are the building blocks for building a harmonious relationship with yourself and others. To understand if this is the right person for you, values ​​are therefore fundamental. It's no coincidence that values ​​are at the heart of the VIAR model, one of the theoretical and operational tools we've developed and which guide our work with people at Mindcenter. 📖 If you want to start discovering the world of values ​​and understand your and your partner's value compass, read my book on the subject. You can purchase it here: https://amzn.to/4blRZP1 35:32 Do you know your deal breakers? ❓But first of all, what are deal breakers? ❌ They are those 3 or 4 elements that are absolutely non-negotiable for you and that, if not respected, can seriously compromise the stability and happiness of the relationship. These are points that are difficult to compromise on without generating dissatisfaction or deep conflict. 📌 My advice? Make a list of your deal breakers and discuss them openly with your partner as soon as possible. 39:10 Conclusions In short, understanding whether your partner is the right person for you isn't something you can quickly develop or based on initial emotions: it takes time and, above all, the willingness to engage in deep conversations that, at times, may feel uncomfortable. ===================================== #rightperson #love #psychology