Why We Don't Change (and What You Can Do About It) | Being Well Podcast

Even after spending the last five years submerging myself in psychology, self-help, and personal growth content, some things have been very hard to change. It surprises me that, even after learning so much, I can still feel like I’m still pushing the same old rocks up the same old hills. On today’s episode I’m joined by Dr. Rick Hanson to explore why we struggle to change for the better, how much change is realistically possible, what makes lasting change hard, the hidden barriers to real change, and how we can keep growing. Key Topics: 0:00 Introduction 3:50 Why do you want to change? 4:45 Four fundamental strategies 6:55 Three common issues 9:20 Effort, skillfulness, and luck 12:55 People’s autonomy about whether they want to change or not 14:15 “Tailwinds” to help yourself 18:00 Secondary gains, avoiding change, and naming payoffs and costs 24:50 Levity and affection for yourself 27:10 Starting by owning that we choose our behavior 30:30 Resistance and the parts of us that don’t want to change 34:35 Framing, starting with benefits, and absolving shame 40:35 Tactics vs. Strategies 43:20 Celebrating small change, aiming for big healing 47:55 Recap New Course From Rick! Learn the lessons of a lifetime in the new and improved Foundations of Wellbeing 2.0 program. http://fwbprogram.com/ This yearlong, online program teaches you how to grow the 12 key inner strengths that lead to lasting wellbeing during difficult times. Our New Year’s sale is going on now, and you can use the code BeingWell25 to get an additional 25% off the purchase price. Subscribe to Being Well on: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5d87ZU1... Who Am I: I'm Forrest, the co-author of Resilient (https://amzn.to/3iXLerD) and host of the Being Well Podcast (https://apple.co/38ufGG0). I'm making videos focused on simplifying psychology, mental health, and personal growth. You can follow me here: 🎤 https://apple.co/38ufGG0 🌍 https://www.forresthanson.com 📸   / f.hanson