Boundary Setting Success: How You Say It Matters (Examples Inside) - Terri Cole

Do you find yourself exploding when you finally set boundaries because you waited too long to communicate them? Is it difficult for you to assert your preferences and desires? Or does it feel like you can’t control your tone of voice or the energy you bring to a boundary conversation? If this resonates, you are not alone. Many of my clients and students experience these challenges. And while it might feel like setting boundaries is ineffective right now, this does not have to be where your boundary journey begins and ends. Because I see this so often, this entire episode is about bringing the appropriate tone and body language to the boundary-setting process. You’ll also get proactive boundary success steps to ensure your tone and body language match what you say and how you want it to be received. Grab the guide here: https://www.terricole.com/boundary-se... Time Stamps 0:00 - Introduction 2:46 - What energy do you bring to your boundaries? 5:30 - The importance of tone when setting boundaries 7:40 - Creating a proactive boundary success plan 10:37 - Visualize setting your boundary 12:11 - Boundary setting is a lifelong practice 14:33 - Coming up with words to express your boundaries 18:18 - What to tell yourself before setting a boundary If You Enjoyed This, Watch These Videos    • How to Create Consequences for Repeat Boun...   - How to Create Consequences for Repeat Boundary Violations    • The 5 Foundational Boundaries for Epic Rel...   - The 5 Foundational Boundaries for Epic Relationships    • How to Set Boundaries with Parents at Any ...   - How to Set Boundaries With Parents At Any Age    • How to Set Boundaries at Work - Terri Cole   - How to Set Boundaries At Work    • What is your Boundary Blueprint?   - What is Your Boundary Blueprint? About Terri Cole Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free. For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see https://www.terricole.com/ Connect With Me Instagram: https://terricole.com/ig Community: https://terricole.com/vip FB Page: https://terricole.com/fb FB Group: https://terricole.com/fbg Podcast: https://terricole.com/itunes Resources to Check out Boundary Boss Book: https://boundarybossbook.com/ Boundary Boss Bootcamp, my 8-week signature course, is carefully constructed to take you to the next level of empowerment in all your personal + professional relationships using a positive and proactive boundary skillset that no one ever taught you. Until now: https://terricole.com/boundarybootcamp BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/terricole I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources. If you choose to sign up for Better Help's service, I will receive a commission on the referral but please know that I only recommend services that I know & trust. https://www.terricole.com/gethelp/ -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help. #terricoleshow #boundaries #boundariesarehealthy