How to Create Consequences for Repeat Boundary Violations - Terri Cole

Do you have “repeat boundary offenders” in your life? People who keep doing the thing they said they wouldn’t do, even though it upsets you? Are you tired of boundary violations, but don’t know how to get through to boundary bullies? If you are nodding your head yes, this episode is for you. I am talking all about how to create appropriate consequences for boundary violations and how to communicate these violations effectively to the people in your life. It’s time to put a stop to this groundhog day of frustration, pain, and suffering and to be understood. Of course, setting consequences doesn’t guarantee someone will respect our boundaries, but effective communication (as opposed to no communication) gives them a chance to. Grab the free guide that goes along with this episode here: https://www.terricole.com/boundary-vi... TIME STAMPS: 0:00 - Introduction 3:06 - What are boundaries? 3:50 - How boundaries protect us and our relationships 5:25 - Boundary violations (first-timers and repeat offenders) 8:25 - Why consequences are necessary when boundaries are crossed 9:21 - The challenges of setting boundary consequences 11:18 - What is a deal breaker? (A non-negotiable boundary) 12:40 - Negotiating for your preferences 14:50 - Examples of boundary consequences (and scripts) RELATED VIDEOS Explosive Boundaries - How to Respond Instead of React:    • Explosive Boundaries? How to Respond Inste...   How to Set Boundaries With Parents At Any Age:    • How to Set Boundaries with Parents at Any ...   What is Your Boundary Blueprint?:    • What is your Boundary Blueprint?   Setting Boundaries With Difficult People:    • Setting Boundaries With Difficult People -...   Trauma + Boundaries: Strategies for Healing:    • Trauma + Boundaries: Strategies for Healing   ABOUT TERRI COLE Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, global relationship and empowerment expert, and the author of Boundary Boss-The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen and (Finally) Live Free and Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency. For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see https://www.terricole.com/ CONNECT WITH ME: Instagram: https://www.terricole.com/ig Membership: https://terricole.com/tcm Newsletter: https://www.terricole.com/newsletter RESOURCES Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency: https://hfcbook.com Boundary Boss Book: https://amzn.to/44DZID9 The Boundary Boss Workbook: https://amzn.to/3Ra7CRU Insight Timer: https://insig.ht/cpKnbJB4KDb (I have a bunch of free meditations on here and love this app!) BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/terricole I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources. https://www.terricole.com/gethelp/ -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help. Please note: If you choose to sign up for BetterHelp or Insight Timer or buy through my Amazon links, I will receive a commission. Please know that I only recommend services and products that I know & trust. #terricoleshow #boundaries #settingboundaries