From Divorce to Pandemic: How to Deal with the Worst that Can Happen | Rachel Hollis

Hey guys, Lisa here! If you didn’t already know, I am super frikin excited to share that I’m writing a book! To be the FIRST to get sneak peeks about my book and other exclusive content go to: http://lisabilyeu.com/ and be sure to sign up for my newsletter. Authenticity. What questions do we ask ourselves to know if we’re living it and how do we walk through the dark storms of life without losing it? Rachel Hollis, two-time #1 New York Times best-selling author of “Girl, Wash Your Face” and “Girl, Stop Apologizing,” joins Lisa Bilyeu on this episode of Women of Impact to discuss and answer these questions and many more as she takes us on a discovery of one’s true-authentic self. She shares why holding onto your dream equates to holding onto your true-self, how her childhood trauma shaped her vivid imagination, the importance of specificity and details, why you should shake off shame and not let criticism bring you down, and how people pleasing may result in anxiety, depression, and the loss of your true-authentic self. SHOW NOTES: Take ownership. Take Control. Rachel discusses navigating the dark seasons of life. [5:00] “Every single day, we decide who we are.” [7:01] When life crashes down all at once; Rachel speaks about holding onto the dream. [8:16] “We should never teach from our wounds, we should only teach from our scars.” [10:23] Rachel shares her story of how childhood trauma formed her vivid imagination. [12:06] Visualize and imagine. Rachel discusses how to leverage imagination to bridge the gap. [14:05] The importance of details and being specific. Rachel discusses, “What does that mean to me?” [15:58] “It’s not enough to know your why, if you don’t know how your ‘why’ manifests for you.” [17:45] Approaching life as a business; Rachel discusses the lessons she applied to parenthood. [19:23] Shaking off shame; Rachel shares why criticism shouldn’t bring you down. [20:58] Backlash while staying authentic; Rachel explores why some women feel they have the right to tell others how to live their life. [23:55] Turning the mirror towards critics and haters; Rachel explores what drives internet trolls. [28:00] Finding your release valve; Rachel explores the different ways you can release pressure. [32:20] Rachel discusses staying connected to what is serving your goals. [33:41] Addressing anxiety and depression; Rachel shares how people pleasing can hold you back. [34:53] Pivoting in life; Rachel discusses how to adapt and lead during hard times. [40:38] The power of belief; How anyone can apply Rachel’s mindset to their own life. [45:56] QUOTES: “Every single day, we make a decision of who we want to be and not making a decision is a decision in and of itself. You, and only you, are ultimately responsible for who you become and how happy you are.” [4:40] “If I lose my dreams, I’ve lost myself.” [7:48] “It’s not enough to know your why, if you don’t know how your ‘why’ manifests for you.” [17:45] “Does this serve my goal or not?” [33:56] “Depression is your avatar telling you that it’s tired of the role you keep pretending to play.” - Jim Carrey [37:29] FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW FOLLOW RACHEL: WEBSITE: https://thehollisco.com RACHEL’S BOOKS: https://amzn.to/2R8acY8 FACEBOOK:   / thechicsite   INSTAGRAM:   / msrachelhollis   TWITTER:   / msrachelhollis