Stop Auto-Accommodating - For Empaths, Codependents & Highly Sensitive People - Terri Cole

Would you consider yourself a highly sensitive person or an empath? What I’ve discovered is that sometimes we are so consciously and unconsciously dialed into our environment that it can compromise internal peace. The concept of Auto-Accommodating refers to the unconscious compulsion to avoid conflict or issues even when they are not your own. Sometimes it can present as just wanting to be “helpful,” which seems like a nice thing to do unless you can’t turn it off. Let’s say you’re in a restaurant with a loved one with a beautiful meal in front of you. Are you aware of everything going on around you? The people’s conversations at other tables, the wait staff, maybe even the party of 4 that came in frustrated that they have to wait and are giving the hostess a hard time? Now let me ask you this…in this scenario, do you find your eyes sweeping the room to check and see which diners are almost ready to leave so as to help “accommodate” the person hassling the hostess? (Even if you say nothing, the act of seeking a solution to what is not your problem is the point, here.) If you’re nodding your head yes, then this episode is for you. While it might seem like you’re being kind and helpful to others (and you might be!), I want to shed light on how the unconscious mechanism of auto-accommodating could be compromising your precious mental and emotional space and what you can do about it. Download the free guide that accompanies this episode here: https://terricole.com/stop-auto-accom... Time Stamps: 0:00 - Introduction 1:10 - What auto-accommodating looks like 3:53 - The cost of auto-accommodating 6:00 - Why do we feel compelled to auto-accommodate? 8:40 - What does being in a state of hyper-awareness feel like? 11:45 - How can you start to heal from auto-accommodating? Breathing exercises 14:12 - Creating sacred time for you each morning and setting intentions 17:50 - How to gain more awareness Related Videos:    • How to Stop Auto-Accommodating Part 2 - Te...   - How to Stop Auto-Accommodating, Part 2    • Curb Codependent Anticipation - Terri Cole   - Curb Codependent Anticipation    • Codependency & Over-Functioning - Terri Cole   - Codependency & Over-Functioning    • Are you Codependent or Caring? - Terri Cole   - Are You Codependent or Caring?    • The Antidote to Over Giving (Strategies to...   - The Antidote to Over Giving (Strategies to Stop)    • Stop Overgiving for More Balance + Less Re...   - Stop Overgiving for More Balance + Less Resentment ABOUT TERRI COLE: Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and global leading expert in female empowerment. For two decades, Terri has worked with some of the world’s most well-known personalities from international pop stars to Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 450,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. For more, see https://www.terricole.com/ CONNECT WITH ME: Instagram: https://www.terricole.com/ig Membership: https://terricole.com/tcm Newsletter: https://www.terricole.com/newsletter RESOURCES Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency: https://hfcbook.com Boundary Boss Book: https://amzn.to/44DZID9 The Boundary Boss Workbook: https://amzn.to/3Ra7CRU Insight Timer: https://insig.ht/cpKnbJB4KDb (I have a bunch of free meditations on here and love this app!) BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/terricole I’m not currently taking any new one-on-one therapy or coaching clients, but highly recommend using BetterHelp to find a therapist that fits your needs. As a team, we have fully vetted BetterHelp's resources. https://www.terricole.com/gethelp/ -- If you are in a crisis or any other person may be in danger the resources on this page can provide you with immediate help. Please note: If you choose to sign up for BetterHelp or Insight Timer or buy through my Amazon links, I will receive a commission. Please know that I only recommend services and products that I know & trust. #terricolerealloverevolution #codependencyrecovery #highlysensitiveperson #terricoleshow

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