Why you sabotage good relationships

You finally have something good. And then you ruin it. Not on purpose. Not consciously. But somehow you always end up here. In this video I break down the full subconscious psychology behind why we sabotage good relationships, why something beautiful can feel threatening and what's actually going on beneath the surface when we pull away, test our partners, create drama or find faults in people who genuinely love us. You'll understand: → The alarm signal and why your nervous system treats good love as dangerous → The jar and the ceiling and your capacity to receive love and why it gets capped → The 4 most common sabotage patterns: pulling away, testing, finding faults, creating drama → Why 95% of this is happening in the subconscious and not by choice → The origin story and how your childhood blueprint is quietly running your adult relationships → The two doors and why the familiar feels safe even when it's not good for you → How to expand your capacity so good love doesn't feel threatening anymore → Why you protect yourself from danger that no longer exists You are not broken. You are wired. And wiring can be changed. 👍 If this supports you, Like the video. 🔗 Share the video with someone you think it might help :) 🗝️ → https://www.denimichajl.com/links Subscribe for more: ‪@denimichajl‬ Watch next : “Relationships are not here to make you happy”:    • Relationships are not here to make you happy   00:00 When something good starts to feel dangerous 04:40 The invisible ceiling on how much love you can hold 10:20 The four ways you quietly end it 19:06 Where your nervous system learned this 25:40 Why the wrong one feels safe and the right one feels terrifying 34:18 How to feel the urge to run - and stay #sabotage #subconsciousmind #nervoussystemhealing #childhoodtrauma #attachmentstyles #innerwork #personalgrowth #selfsabotaging #relationshippatterns #denimichajl