Midlife Desire, Menopause & Sex | Polyamory in Midlife on Nope! We’re Not Monogamous Podcast

Midlife desire isn’t a decline — it’s a second spring. In this episode of my non monogamy podcast, I talk with Carla Wainwright about menopause and sex, pleasure as medicine, and what polyamory in midlife can really look like. In this episode of Nope! We’re Not Monogamous, I sit down with Carla Wainwright, Holistic Wellness Coach, Sexual Awakening Facilitator, and self-proclaimed Midlife Alchemist. We talk about what really happens to women’s desire, relationships, and identity in midlife, and how it all ties into exploring non-monogamy, polyamory, and rewriting the love scripts we didn’t ask for. Carla shares why: 🔥 Desire evolves with us (and midlife is often when it finally gets honest) 🧠 Communication has to start with the nervous system, not just words 🚧 Boundaries get sharper as we age, and that’s actually freedom 💋 Pleasure isn’t optional; it’s medicine for hormones, libido, and vitality We also get real about: ✨ What non-monogamy looks like in midlife ✨ Why menopause can actually increase desire and sexual energy ✨ How pleasure and presence help regulate hormones and deepen connection ✨ Why this stage of life is a portal into power, clarity, and turn-on If you ever think, “I don’t know what I want, but I know it isn’t this,” this conversation will remind you: you’re not broken, you were born lovable, and you get to want what you want. 👉 Don’t miss Carla’s Just the Tip segment, available exclusively on Patreon at [patreon.com/notmonogamous]   / notmonogamous  . Become a friend with benefits and get access to the spicier stuff. 🔗 Resources & Links Mentioned: Connect with Carla + download The Vibrancy Guide: https://vibrancyreset.com Support the podcast on Patreon:   / notmonogamous   Timestamps: 0:00 – Intro: Meet Carla Wainwright, Midlife Alchemist 3:00 – Midlife as an alchemical moment for relationships 7:30 – Desire isn’t fixed: shifting wants in midlife & non-monogamy 12:00 – Nervous system regulation before tough conversations 15:30 – Boundaries that sharpen (and piss people off) in midlife 19:00 – Menopause as the second spring 22:00 – Pleasure as essential medicine, not a bonus 27:00 – Non-monogamy in midlife: challenges & possibilities 32:00 – Rapid-fire questions: pleasure, hormones, and myths to torch 35:00 – Where to find Carla & her Vibrancy Guide As a non-monogamous relationship coach with 10+ years of experience, I provide practical strategies and compassionate support to help you thrive in open relationships. 📩 Subscribe to Not A Monogamous Newsletter 👉 [https://elleciapaine.podia.com/newsle...] 💖 Support Us on Patreon 👉 [  / notmonogamous  ] 🔗 Find Us Online: 🌍 Website: [https://www.elleciapaine.com/] 📌 Facebook: [  / elleciapaine  ] 📸 Instagram: [  / elleciapaine  ] 🎵 Music Credit: Composer: Oscar Lindstein | STIM IPI: 572 393 237