Здоровый эгоизм. Что значит реально любить себя

What does "loving yourself" really mean—and why isn't it just about creams, shopping, and bubble baths? In this video, we explore the difference between self-care and true self-love, why "healthy egoism" is a myth, and how to break free from dependence on others' approval ("you're the best") and embrace inner strength. We discuss needs versus desires, how unmet needs give rise to guilt, shame, irritation, and fear, and why self-acceptance and mature relationships are impossible without self-knowledge. We also discuss accepting one's appearance: where the line lies between what's normal and the cult of "remodeling," and how to see oneself not through "other people's eyes," but from within one's own essence. In this video, you'll learn: The difference between self-love and self-care Why "healthy selfishness" doesn't exist How to distinguish needs from desires and choose yourself without selfishness How to stop depending on your partner's praise and others' approval What to do when you're "eating away" your emotions and how to stop yourself like an adult Accepting your appearance: where change is appropriate, and where we're driven by a wound Practical steps: needs inventory, checkups, self-compassion If you resonate, subscribe, like, and share in the comments what you're working on. Vania Markovich is a systems psychologist, Doctor of Psychology, and author and teacher of the "Emotional Maturity" method. You can learn about all the training programs on the Simurg University page. https://simurg.life/?utm_source=youtu... To get even better acquainted with the Simurg space and begin your journey to emotional maturity, follow us on social media 👇🏻 https://vk.com/simurg.life https://t.me/vaniamarkovich 00:00 — Introduction. Why do we need emotions and can they be divided into "good/bad"? 01:35 — Emotions as a coordinate system. Negative vs. Positive 03:10 — Negative emotions: anger, fear, shame, guilt, etc. 05:05 — Shame and guilt: "I don't deserve it" as an internal complex 06:40 — "Can't emotions be contained?" Why venting helps only briefly 08:15 — The main metaphor: emotions are "light bulbs" on a dashboard 10:20 — The root of emotions: unmet needs → character traits → emotions 12:45 — Why we aren't taught to fulfill needs and what to do about it 14:50 — Confusing thoughts and feelings: the case of "my husband doesn't respect me" 17:40 — Articulating real feelings and checking the adequacy of the response 20:10 — Where does the demand "he should" come from: control, fear of the partner's freedom 22:50 — A flash of anger in the moment: body language, where tension exists 24:20 — Practice: breathing + relaxing the hands and jaw (quick release) 26:00 — After the release: find the violated need and the cause of the emotion 27:40 — Why "screaming into a pillow" doesn't work: catharsis and missed analysis 30:10 — Neural Connections: Mindfulness alone isn't enough; training is needed 32:00 — The goal isn't to "remove emotions," but to remove the causes. About "light sadness" 35:10 — The dentist example: the need for safety and clarity 38:20 — How to negotiate with a doctor: protocol, signals, and an action plan 40:35 — The influence of other people's negative emotions: examples and what to do 43:00 — "Emotional Maturity" training: what it teaches and why 45:10 — The Mirror Principle: why others "hurt" us and how to overcome it 47:20 — Calmness is not weakness: the criteria of maturity. The finale Podcast about love https://simurg.life/7secretalllove?ut... What is true love? Why is the path to mature love not about finding a new partner, but about restoring your ability to love? What should you do to find lifelong love? #loveforSerbia #selfacceptance #selfworth #selfesteem #emotionalmaturity #psychology #relationships #boundaries #selfhelp #mindfulness