EP69 所有的抗拒都是自已｜李崇義

Communication is fun, always want to convince others to believe what we believe The night I first met Mr. Charles Lee. At seven o'clock, the teacher arrived at the library on time. I poured a glass of whiskey for him. We were able to get acquainted with each other through the strong drink before we started recording. An hour or so later, we started recording. The session lasted more than seven hours in total. We talked all the way from 7pm to 5am. We drank a lot and talked a lot. It was as if we wanted to take this night to share our thoughts and past experiences in one go. It was like a competition, a friendly competition of mutual respect. Like Charles said at the end, it was a great night. There was wine, there were stories. We spent every second understanding each other. Profound, not always touching, but not overly sentimental. Especially those moments of silence. Without any words, we seemed to know something. We are all looking at ourselves through the lives of others. Communication is funny. It's always about convincing others to believe what we believe, or not to believe what we don't believe. Or not to believe what we don't believe. If that's all, it's all in vain. I like what Charles said: the purpose of communication is to get closer, not to convince. This night, I knew that we had gotten closer to an interesting soul. Of course, we also got closer to ourselves. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ---------------------------------------- 00:00:00 - With CC subtitles 00:03:31 - Communication is understanding each other's desires, not negotiating your and my expectations 00:12:32 - Love is mutual. 00:14:51 - Love desired ≠ love received. 00:15:04 - Is there anyone who has never experienced love in their life? 00:17:00 - People deserve to be loved. 00:21:36 - The purpose of communication is not to convince others. 00:22:33 - The purpose of communication is to connect internally. 00:23:42 - The meaning of Satir as a tool 00:24:45 - Can you love people unconditionally, but can you love yourself unconditionally? 00:26:41 - All love begins with oneself. 00:28:06 - It is only when you love yourself that you can truly love others. 00:31:40 - Self-worth is the most basic human desire. 00:34:29 - Often it's because of self-doubt that you believe what people say. 00:35:31 - Bravery is moving forward with fear. 00:39:45 - Just ask if you want it, not if you can do it. 00:43:33 - Encouraging kids to write bad essays? 00:44:35 - Being accepted gives you the motivation to try. 00:47:00 - From rebellion to gentleness 00:47:50 - Single parenthood and a depressing childhood 00:50:15 - High school was a blast. 00:50:32 - The teacher's son is the toughest. 00:51:47 - I'd kick your ass if I were your brother. 00:54:34 - The tighter you hold on, the farther away you go. 00:56:42 - Daddy's love, mommy's love. 00:58:40 - I am loved. 00:59:18 - Daddy's heart is broken. 01:00:52 - OP 01:06:20 - Diligent mom, responsible dad 01:07:50 - I'm your mom, too. 01:08:30 - I can't believe your mom is a master of Sensei. 01:10:21 - Anger in my throat. 01:13:54 - Forgive me for being free from anger. 01:14:47 - Let anger run away for a while, then we can talk about forgiveness. 01:15:39 - The blue bay. 01:23:13 - If you're leaving, you have my blessing. 01:23:18 - Never doubted that they made the best choice of the moment for the love of me. 01:24:33 - Mom and Dad are also children who have never been soothed inside. 01:27:16 - I'm the one who can't get over it. 01:32:15 - I have to get over myself. 01:33:14 - I'm not here to sell courses. 01:34:15 - If you don't understand, don't force yourself. 01:35:10 - What is love? ---------------------------------------- A place to rental your stigma and explore the unknown. Doubt is the essence of life, walking with the unknown to explore the world, everyone is a book that will walk. Drinking Library is a Taiwan cultural media Podcast program that started in 2020, hosted by Otherwise Library's Hank & Ting, and updated weekly. We talk about the love, hate, anger and madness of life while drinking wine, searching for the marks and anxieties of the times, and focusing on life's perplexities and doubts, our own lack of, and the interesting souls. The climax of life, and watch life's unique philosophy and emotional learning, personal values. If you like our program, welcome to subscribe! Feel free to leave a comment to cheer us up! Meet Interesting SoulsOtherwise Library https://walkingbook.tw/ Collaboration Invitation [email protected]