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"Well, I see it completely differently." Do you know those people who, no matter what you say, always have the exact opposite opinion? Here's a guide for dealing with such people. You say: "Wow, I love vacations in the south, where it's so nice and warm." And the other person replies: "Yes, but it's also great in the snow, and the cold has its advantages." Then you say: "Yes, I could imagine a week in the snow." And the other person says: "It doesn't have to be a whole week. A weekend is enough." There are people who, no matter what you say, simply say the opposite. For some, it's a real habit, a ingrained reaction, having to be against it first. Or wanting to see things differently. No matter how, but differently. We call these people counterexample sorters. Counterexample sorters. That's the technical term for it. Counterexample sorters are the opposite of sameexample sorters. The same-example sorters are those who always agree with you. They change like a flag in the wind and adapt their opinions to achieve harmony. And the counter-example sorters are those who always oppose it. You say: "Wow, I think it's great that we've landed this new project." And the other person replies: "Oh, that's going to be a lot of work." But if you were to say: "Oh, this new project is going to be a lot of work," then your counterpart would say: "It's great that we've landed it." So the counter-example sorter doesn't have a clear opinion or stance of their own either. They have this mode: I'm the critical voice, the warning voice. They seek dispute and sometimes even argument. Now the question is: How do we deal with such people? I conduct a lot of interviews. At events, TV shows, or for films I make for ZDF: I often encounter counter-example sorters. It was very helpful for me to understand how they tick. Now, when I recognize one, I try to adapt my questions accordingly. So, if I have a counterexample sorter who has experienced a dramatic stroke of fate and says: "Oh my goodness, that must have been terrible what you experienced." Then the counterexample sorter says: "Well, it wasn't that bad." So it's helpful to turn the question around: "Tell me, was it really that bad, or is it more dramatic in their imagination than in real life?" Then the counterexample sorter would always say: "Of course it was bad!" And talk about their fate. So I can consider what kind of answer I want to hear and give the counterexample sorter a corresponding template. This approach is called reverse psychology. And one more suggestion at the end: When I'm dealing with people who are always against it and think everything is somehow stupid. Then I ask, "What are you for? I've heard a lot today that you don't like so much. What do you like? What do you stand for? What are you fighting for? What are you committed to?" Some of the answers are very interesting. I think being for something is simply better than being against it. It unleashes more positive forces. So, I wish you much success in dealing with people who are always against it. And maybe you'll manage to convince them to do something for it a little bit. This video would have been worth it just for that.