Mating Minds — Alain de Botton on Attachment Styles and the Art of Compromise

This is an excerpt from a talk Alain de Botton gave at Zeitgeist Minds in May 2017.

Why we struggle to love ourselves and others | Alain de Botton on the psychology of love
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Why we struggle to love ourselves and others | Alain de Botton on the psychology of love

Your attachment style was shaped before you turned 10 | Alain de Botton
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Your attachment style was shaped before you turned 10 | Alain de Botton

Alain de Botton: Why You're Drawn to the Wrong People and How Attachment Styles Explain It
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Alain de Botton: Why You're Drawn to the Wrong People and How Attachment Styles Explain It

Dating and Deception — Alain de Botton on Deception in Love and Controlling our Self-Image
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Dating and Deception — Alain de Botton on Deception in Love and Controlling our Self-Image

Is Your Home Making You Happy? | Alain de Botton on Homing
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Is Your Home Making You Happy? | Alain de Botton on Homing

The Concept of true Love: Talk with Alain de Botton | Sternstunde Philosophie | SRF Kultur
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The Concept of true Love: Talk with Alain de Botton | Sternstunde Philosophie | SRF Kultur

The Hidden Reason You Feel Empty & Lost — And How To Finally Find Meaning | Alain de Botton
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The Hidden Reason You Feel Empty & Lost — And How To Finally Find Meaning | Alain de Botton

Love is a skill, not a feeling | Alain de Botton: Full Interview
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Love is a skill, not a feeling | Alain de Botton: Full Interview

Alain de Botton on Sex
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Alain de Botton on Sex

The Uncomfortable Question You Should Ask on Every First Date - Alain de Botton
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The Uncomfortable Question You Should Ask on Every First Date - Alain de Botton

Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person | Alain de Botton | Google Zeitgeist
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Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person | Alain de Botton | Google Zeitgeist

How To Fix Your Negative Patterns - Alain de Botton on Chris Williamson
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How To Fix Your Negative Patterns - Alain de Botton on Chris Williamson

The uncomfortable question you should ask on every first date | Alain de Botton
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The uncomfortable question you should ask on every first date | Alain de Botton

Alain De Botton: Radical Honesty Save Your Relationship?: Communication, Trust, and Emotional Safety
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Alain De Botton: Radical Honesty Save Your Relationship?: Communication, Trust, and Emotional Safety

Why relationships in 2026 carry impossible expectations | Alain de Botton
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Why relationships in 2026 carry impossible expectations | Alain de Botton

Can You Change Your Partner? Alain de Botton on Accepting More and Sulking Less in Relationships
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Can You Change Your Partner? Alain de Botton on Accepting More and Sulking Less in Relationships

Alain de Botton on AI therapy, cultural Christianity & polite political debates
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Alain de Botton on AI therapy, cultural Christianity & polite political debates

The Cycle You Don’t Realise You’re In - Alain de Botton (4K)
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The Cycle You Don’t Realise You’re In - Alain de Botton (4K)

Jordan Peterson: The Mind of Highly (Dis-)Agreeable People
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Jordan Peterson: The Mind of Highly (Dis-)Agreeable People

The Challenges Of Anxious-Avoidant Relationships - Alain de Botton
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The Challenges Of Anxious-Avoidant Relationships - Alain de Botton