El Lado B de tu Personalidad: Así Creas tu Realidad | Teoría de la Cocreación Explicada

✨ Join the Community for Free Classes and News: https://chat.whatsapp.com/CQCrzKfFQin... 📍Membership, Courses, and Natal Chart: https://laumattiviastro.com Our guests' social media: 📍Milker Olaya's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/milkerolaya... 📍Javier Echevarría's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/javierechev... Discovering the Other Side of the Theory of Relational Co-creation with specialists Milker Olaya and Javier Echevarría, accompanied by María Laura Mattivi Aboy. The phrase "you are the creator of your reality" is beautiful and incredibly powerful, but in this conversation with Milker and Javier, we deconstruct it to explore what no one tells you: the other side of co-creation. When we're in the midst of personal development, we love the first side of that premise because it empowers us, makes us feel in control of our lives, and allows us to manifest what we desire. But the true leap in consciousness—the one that takes us out of a childish self-knowledge—comes when we embrace the other side: accepting that everything we dislike about our current reality, we are also co-creating in some way. Accepting that this is how you create your reality involves confronting the dark side of your personality through three uncomfortable but profoundly liberating truths that emerge from this conversation: 1. Stop pointing the finger outward: The dark side of your personality manifests when you project blame onto your surroundings. Committing to co-creation is the ultimate antidote to victimhood. It's understanding that your complaints, your reproaches, and your unconscious choices are part of the equation of your conflicts. 2. The ego doesn't do anything for free: If you're trapped in the labyrinth of a relationship where you suffer, complain, or endure too much, there's a hidden secondary gain in your shadow that's fattening your ego, whether it's feeling like the good guy, the saint, the powerful one, or the poor victim in the story. For a healthy "us" to be born, or for real transformation to occur, the ego has to die a little. 3. Healing happens in connection, not in isolation: There's a spiritual fantasy that you first have to shut yourself away to heal in solitude before going out into the world perfect. But the reality is that we emit information all the time, and we only discover ourselves when we encounter another person. Prolonged solitude is often not healing, but rather a collection of red flags to avoid the risk of getting involved again. Taking responsibility for our part doesn't mean burdening ourselves with the blame for what happens to us, but rather adopting a mature psychological stance to decide what we will co-create from now on with what life presents us. 00:00 The Other Side of Co-creation and Personal Responsibility. 03:04 The Dangers of Superficial Empowerment and Victimization. 06:25 The Trap of Infantilized Self-Knowledge and the Spiritual Ego. 09:25 Couple Dynamics: How Infidelity is Co-created in Relationships. 13:40 Unconscious Alliances: Simultaneous vs. Sequential Co-creation. 17:25 Ego Projections, Empty Gazes, and the Trap of Blaming External Factors. 20:41 Positioning in the Face of Traumatic Events According to Viktor Frankl. 25:29 Feeling Like a Victim in Order to Stop Being One. 29:29 The infantile omnipotence of blaming oneself for everything in the face of needs. 32:04 The secondary gain: The secret alibis that inflate the ego. 35:17 The neurotic triangle: The gains of the victim, the savior, and the perpetrator. 41:30 Codependency, addictions, and how to maintain adult boundaries. 46:47 The Labyrinth of suffering vs. The mountain range of real growth. 50:15 Disarming everyday complaining. 54:36 Covert corruption in household rules and a lack of personal honesty. 56:30 The Third Party in relationships: The "we" has a life of its own. 01:01:07 Seven Years of Solitude: The myth of isolating oneself to heal. 01:03:51 Accepting human frailties in the face of idealized spirituality. 01:06:14 Collection of red flags 01:09:13 Conclusion: Looking in the mirror hurts, but it allows you to grow. #RelationalCocreation #Psychology #SelfResponsibility #MilkerOlaya #JavierEchevarria #MariaLauraMattiviAboy #BSide #SecondaryGain #HealthyRelationships #DeepAstrology