本当に頭のいい人は、信頼を失わない

The common traits of people I consider trustworthy are: When I glimpse their "way of being and living"—the way they live when no one is watching, when it's not in the public eye—I've come to realize that the cleaner and more beautiful their "way of being and living" is, the more trustworthy they seem. Because it's during alone time, when no one is watching, that one's "true nature" is revealed. · · ───── ·✧· ───── · · Common traits of trustworthy people: ✅They have a long-term perspective ✅They can connect current analysis with future predictions ✅They can predict behavior by categorizing it into patterns ✅They can trace things from the other person's perspective In other words, it's also a form of intelligence 🧠 Without all of these, no matter how kind-hearted someone is, I think it's difficult to gain their trust. Trust is greatly influenced by competence 🦕 · · ───── ·✧· ───── · · The answers to "people who deceive, lie, and trick" also share common points 📄 "If you look a little ahead, you can see the result, so why deceive? Who benefits? Mutual harm." "Wait, does that mean you're not thinking ahead at all? What's going on in your brain?" "Can't you see anything but the temporary gain of the present? How can you get rid of your future perspective?" It really felt like I couldn't understand what was going on in their minds 🧠 · · ───── ·✧· ───── · · 【Common points of "trusted people"】 Why do you think trust is important? In response to the question: "If you look around, you can see that the lives of people who are trustworthy and those who aren't are completely different." "Without trust, it's impossible to have a long-term relationship." "Do people who deceive others not see the future?" I realized that they possess not only kindness, but also a very long-term perspective and strong ability to work backwards. · · ───── ·✧· ───── · · The more I delved into "trust," "I want to associate with trustworthy people." ≒ "I want to associate with people with extremely high emotional intelligence." I've come to think they're synonymous. Regarding trust, as mentioned in the quoted source, it requires a combination of abilities: 🔵 Long-term perspective 🔵 Other-centered perspective 🔵 Ethical sense This is supported by research data showing that "people with high EQ are more likely to be trusted by those around them." · · ───── ·✧· ───── · · Considering this, making excuses, running away, or being unable to admit one's mistakes after failure might be the limit of one's abilities, the final point that can only be avoided. Just as it would be cruel to ask that of a weak animal, even among humans, everyone has different personalities, so perhaps it's kinder to accept each person's limits. · · ───── ·✧· ───── · · The more I analyze "trustworthy people," the more I realize: 🔵Long-term perspective 🔵Other-centered perspective 🔵Ethical values They consistently possess a complex combination of these elements. I've come to think that "trust may also be greatly influenced by ability." 🧠 · · ───── ·✧· ───── · · "People who lose trust" apply to one of these three, or exhibit both. ①→Surprisingly difficult. Developing the ability to analyze the present and predict the future depends on the individual's ability. ②→Neglecting to adopt a long-term perspective despite having it suggests a tendency to undertake tasks outside the scope of responsibility. Sense of responsibility or character? ③ There's a high possibility that their character is questionable. Ethical values ​​are unchanging, making this difficult. When you open the lid on "trust," Those who are trusted all possess the ability to "consider everything from a long-term perspective" 🧠 Conversely, those who easily lose trust only see the "present." In other words, the cause is: 🚨 Lack of the ability to think from a long-term perspective 🚨 Neglect of the ability to think from a long-term perspective 🚨 Only considering one's own interests and not the outside world There is a tendency towards one of these three. · · ───── ·✧· ───── · · Everyone makes mistakes. We're only human. But what's important is what happens "after" the failure. Making excuses, cleverly running away, refusing to admit one's mistakes These are the things that cause you to lose the most important thing: "trust." And it's irreversible; once it's destroyed, you can never go back to the same state. #trust #whatistrust #credibility #EQ #emotionalintelligence #trustworthypeople