How to stop being defensive in your marriage!

This video is part of our 8 part better relationship communication series. In this video Tyler share what defensiveness is, what defensiveness does to your relationship, What defensive feels like. Along with giving practical advice on what ways you can be defensive in your relationship and most importantly How to stop being defensive in your marriage. Question of the Day - When do you become defensive? How do you know that you are being defensive? Top Takeaways From This Episode 2:31 - What is defensiveness? 3:17 - What does defensiveness do to my relationship? 5:03 - What defensiveness feels Like? 5:47 - What defensiveness looks like. 5:55 - Defensive behavior - denying responsibility 6:30 - Defensive behavior - making excuses 7:08 - Defensive behavior - second guessing 7:57 - Defensive behavior - cross complaining 8:33 - Defensive behavior - yes,..... but 9:40 - Defensive behavior - repeating yourself 10:24 - Antidote to defensiveness - know your own defensive behavior 11:06 - Antidote to defensiveness -self-sooth 11:52 - Antidote to defensiveness - get curious about what your partner is feeling 12:41 - Antidote to defensiveness - take responsibility & hold space 13:00 - Antidote to defensiveness - remember why you love your partner. Linked Videos & Resources Criticism -    • How do I stop criticism in my relationship?   Contempt -    • How do I stop criticism in my relationship?   Learn more about the defensiveness in Dr. John Gottman's book the 7 Principle For Making Marriage Work - https://amzn.to/3bRtl8C About Richer Life Counseling Richer Life Counseling is group psychotherapy practice located in Las Vegas, NV. Our therapist specializes in a number of mental health and relationship issues. Our channel is built to share knowledge about all things mental health. You can learn more about our group practice at www.RicherLifeCounseling.com The Richer Marriage Show is a weekly show that is devoted to help form strong relationships. Our goal is to teach the world about having strong relationships. Tyler Rich is Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of Nevada.