Becoming Securely Attached (to yourself): Reparenting and Healing Insecure Attachment | Being Well

‪@RickHanson‬ and I explore how we can become securely attached to ourselves: building an internal foundation that lets us connect with others, regulate our emotions, and explore the world from that secure base. We talk about how this is supposed to develop in childhood, why it doesn't for many people, and what we can actually do about it as adults. Topics include the research on early attachment, why so many of us arrive at adulthood with a strong inner critic and weak inner support, and four practical paths forward: creating a coherent narrative about your past, reparenting yourself, rescaling your sense of self in relation to others, and building self-trust through healthy exploration.  Key Topics: 0:00 Introduction 2:00 The research on becoming a “secure base” 8:17 How we internalize early sources of regulation and recognition 15:43 What happens when love is contingent 18:44 Forming a coherent narrative 29:14 Reparenting yourself 42:07 Rebuilding your sense of self 57:40 Using your secure base to explore, try, and fail 1:09:18 Recap Rick’s Attachment Course: Join Rick for a 5-week online course, learn more at https://RickHanson.com/attachment and get 25% off with coupon code BeingWell25. Sponsors: Level up your bedding with Quince. Go to Quince.com/BEINGWELL for free shipping on your order and three hundred and sixty-five -day returns. Go to https://DonorsChoose.org/BEINGWELL to find a classroom near you and have your gift matched today. I'm not a clinician, and what I say on this channel should not be taken as medical advice. Subscribe to Being Well on: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/5d87ZU1... Who Am I: I'm Forrest, the co-author of Resilient (https://amzn.to/3iXLerD) and host of the Being Well Podcast (https://apple.co/38ufGG0). I'm making videos focused on simplifying psychology, mental health, and personal growth. Subscribe to Rick on YouTube:    / @rickhanson   Get Rick's Free Newsletters: https://rickhanson.com/writings/newsl... Follow Rick Here: 🌍 https://rickhanson.com/ 📸   / rickhansonphd   You can follow me here: 🎤 https://apple.co/38ufGG0 🌍 https://www.forresthanson.com 📸   / f.hanson