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Is it news that we don't please everyone? Does anyone have the illusion that they please everyone? We know we're not unanimous, but the big question is: How prepared are we to face this truth head-on? ................................................................................................... Schedule online or in-person psychotherapy: WhatsApp 11 99787-4512 Contact us via WhatsApp by clicking directly here: https://rb.gy/zdrmq http://www.marisapsicologa.com.br/hor... In-person appointments: Rua Bela Cintra, 968 (near Paulista Avenue - Consolação Metro and Paulista Metro) In-person psychologist in São Paulo, Paulista Avenue, Consolação, and Cerqueira Cesar areas. Become a member of the channel club:    / @psicólogosemsãopaulo   Free E-books http://www.marisapsicologa.com.br/mat... Already published e-books: OCD, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Personality Disorders. Depression. Psychological Treatments. Anxiety. Panic Disorder. ADHD, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. Hypochondriasis. Schizophrenia. Anorexia. Obesity. Agoraphobia. Alcoholism Treatment. Self-Esteem. Childhood Anxiety. Shyness. Bournot Syndrome. Premature Ejaculation. Overcoming the Pain of Separation. How to Maintain Sanity During Quarantine. Insomnia. Abandonment Neurosis. Borderline. Etc. Join the Telegram group: https://t.me/PsicologosemSP This video aims to present situations in which a psychologist can participate in the psychotherapy process, but is not intended to provide treatment. Psychotherapy is your space to receive guidance, reflect, understand yourself, and change behaviors, thoughts, and feelings. This video is not a substitute for therapy. Cortes channel:    / @cortespsicologosemsaopaulo   Main channel http://goo.gl/32B3B6 Marisa de Abreu, Psychologist, CRP 06/29493 _________________________________________ THE COURAGE TO NOT PLEASE EVERYONE How to be okay even when you know they hate you Contempt from the perspective of those you despise People who deserve and need to be despised. There's a big difference between the people we dislike. But the closer or more important the person is, the greater the burden of knowing that they don't like us, accept us, or are critical of us. We can think of friends, relatives, colleagues at work, and neighbors. But the most painful point, even though many people manage to overcome it because it is possible to overcome it, would be when our parents have no connection with us. PEOPLE WHO DESERVE AND NEED TO BE DESPISED These are those who harm you, cause harm, and you realize you can't keep them around. I believe one way would be to show contempt for these people, but a specific kind of contempt. If you really can't stand the person's presence, know that the feeling of contempt is yours; you don't need to tell the person, otherwise it will turn into revenge. Unless they ask and want to talk about it, you can communicate without attacking. Disdain for what the person does, not them as a human being. We must understand that nothing definitively defines a person, not even their actions. No matter how bad a person's actions are, we should reject them, not the person themselves. That's why the justice system doesn't eliminate people who commit crimes; it incarcerates them to prevent them from repeating them. You have the right to disregard someone's presence in your life when they harm you. Remove them from your life. Again, this isn't about disregarding the person, but disregarding their actions. This way, you remove the possibility of the harm they cause you continuing. Disregarding them in this case would mean not interacting with that person, thus preventing them from harming you. REASONS THAT MAKE SOMEONE DISLIKE YOU Something they see in you that they don't approve of. (clothes, gym) Something someone said about you that they assumed was true, whether true or not. Something you did that you had the right to do, but the person felt wronged. (wall) Something you didn't do, but the person thought you should have. HOW TO BE GOOD EVEN WHEN YOU KNOW THEY HATE YOU If someone dislikes you for something you don't deserve, you can try to talk to them, without the expectation or demand that you'll be able to resolve the issue, but in the end, you'll have a clear conscience because you did your part. If someone dislikes you because you actually did something that hurt or harmed them, you can make amends and find ways to minimize the damage. Again, there's no guarantee that you'll win back the person's affection, but you'll know you did your part. Note that sometimes people feel good about themselves when they feel good about someone else, but other times they feel good about themselves just because they have a clear conscience. But... if your conscience isn't clear, you won't be able to feel good about yourself knowing you hurt someone and did nothing to minimize the damage.