Психолог Лариса Суркова: про авторитет родителей, зависимость от гаджетов, вранье и доверие

The holidays are a wonderful time, but for some parents and children, they can be a real challenge. Young children lose count of their "wants," teenagers assert their rights and freedoms, and adults struggle to exert authority. How can you become significant to your child? Is it okay to punish them? How can you still maintain a trusting relationship? Should you cross the line and become your child's "friend"? How can you establish contact if your child "doesn't listen"? We discussed these and many other questions with psychologist and mother of 7 (!!!) children, Larisa Surkova. 00:00:00 In this episode 00:00:56 How does Larisa Surkova combine raising 7 children with an active practice, writing books, and blogging? 00:03:40 How did Larisa get 2.7 million subscribers on a banned social network? 00:05:41 Larisa Surkova's Most Difficult Child 00:06:26 Are You an Authority for Your Child? 00:08:54 Two Laws of Child Psychology 00:09:55 Why Is a Parent's Authority at Risk After Age 7? 00:11:00 Do We Want Our Children to Trust Us or Submit to Our Will? 00:12:04 How to Earn a Child's Trust? 00:14:04 Two Rules in Larisa Surkova's Family 00:15:14 Why Does Larisa Not Hide Her Feelings from Her Children? 00:16:14 Why Did Children Start Growing Up So Early? 00:19:08 Yulia on a Pornographic Image Her Classmate Showed Her 00:19:40 By What Age Should Parents Build a Trusting Relationship with Their Children? 00:20:07 How to explain to a child what is and isn't allowed? 00:21:19 Why doesn't the word "no" work? 00:21:48 What to do if a child confesses to stealing? 00:22:27 Two ideal questions to ask a child when you don't know how to react to what happened 00:24:15 In what situation is it appropriate to share examples from your childhood? 00:25:20 What behavior of yours will definitely provoke a child to repeat the offense, but without you finding out? 00:26:22 What should be the main punishment for a child? 00:27:36 Can children determine their own punishment? 00:28:19 Should children be punished? 00:29:39 What is the correct way to punish children? 00:31:20 How to discipline teenagers? 00:33:17 What to do if your child's room is a mess? 00:35:16 How did Yulia negotiate with her son to make his bed? 00:36:50 My child comes home late – what to do? 00:40:00 What to do if you haven't had time to establish a trusting relationship with your child before adolescence? 00:41:12 How much time do parents spend with their child when they're in school (in minutes)? 00:42:25 Gadgets. When to start and can you limit them? 00:44:25 How can you tell if your child is addicted to gadgets and what to do? 00:47:40 Why is it important for a child to know that you are learning something from them too? 00:50:30 How to respond to swearing? 00:51:00 Is it okay to become a "buddy" for your child – swearing, drinking, smoking, and hanging out together? 00:54:05 Is it possible to avoid teenage rebellion? 00:55:12 The first harbinger of the most difficult age 00:55:30 Difficult adolescence. What should parents do? 00:56:48 How to make your teenager listen to you? 00:58:27 We don't notice how often we insult our children. 01:00:10 Is it okay to hug adult children? Telegram: https://t.me/JuliaMenshovaJulia Instagram*:   / juliavmenshova   *Instagram is owned by the American company Meta, which has been designated as extremist and is banned in Russia. **Meta is the parent company of Facebook, WhatsApp, and Instagram. It has been designated as extremist and is banned in Russia. The illegal use of narcotic drugs, psychotropic substances, and their analogues is harmful to health. Their illegal trafficking is prohibited and entails legal liability. #psychology #menshova #samamenshova