「人といると疲れ、一人でいると寂しい」──この矛盾は、あなたのせいじゃない

With people, you're worn out. Alone, you're lonely. You want to be invited — yet when the invitation comes, you turn it down. This endless loop isn't a sign that something in you is broken. It happens precisely because nothing is. In this video, we quietly take apart where that "I can never find the right distance" feeling comes from — through psychology and philosophy. No easy comfort here. Just the right words for your pain, and a look at the mechanism underneath it. —— Studies & figures in this video —— Mark Leary — "Sociometer Theory" Naomi Eisenberger & Matthew Lieberman — the neuroscience of social pain (rejection and physical pain are processed in the same regions of the brain) Approach–avoidance conflict Henry David Thoreau (Walden) Arthur Schopenhauer — the parable of the porcupines ("The Hedgehog's Dilemma," from Parerga and Paralipomena) The Human Glitch A channel that quietly dissects the emotional pain of modern life through psychology and philosophy. @ningennobug #psychology #philosophy #loneliness