The loneliness of being the family scapegoat and surviving toxic systems with Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia

In this episode of The Trauma Educator Podcast, I’m joined by Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia, a clinical psychologist whose work bridges trauma, somatic and parts work, and intuitive energy healing. Drawing from both her professional expertise and personal healing journey, Deniz brings a perspective that moves beyond intellectual understanding and into the lived, embodied process of reconnecting with the self. We talk about: What happens when memories of abuse surface later in life Why self-doubt is a necessary survival strategy that once protected us The complexity of rebuilding self-trust, not as a guarantee that we’ll always get it “right”, but as a capacity to stay with ourselves regardless of the outcome The reality of dysfunctional family systems, including the experience of being the scapegoat, and the loneliness that comes with that role The confusion of being raised by a parent whose public image did not match what happened at home The role of anger as a way of taking our life-force energy back and restoring a sense of agency after trauma And what it takes to stop abandoning ourselves, especially when that pattern was shaped in environments where disconnection was necessary for belonging For more information on Dr. Deniz’s work, visit here www.drdeniz.com Join The Chrysalis, my signature 12-week program on depression https://courses.effiekli.com/the-chry... Follow me on Instagram www.instagram.com/the.trauma.educator Visit my website www.effiekli.com Get in touch with us www.effiekli.com/contact And if you enjoyed this episode, please don’t forget to follow, subscribe, rate, and share to help expand these trauma-informed conversations and bring them to more people around the world who need them.