Joy and Pleasure After Sexual Self-Abandonment

Sexual self-abandonment is what happens when we stop having sex for ourselves. We may or may not actually stop having sex -- we might be doing it for someone else. For their desire, on their timeline, their idea of what sex should look like, while our own wants, our own pace, our own boundaries quietly went missing somewhere along the way. That's what this episode is about. How we get there — there are three really common pathways, and I've lived through all three myself — and more importantly, how to find your way back to your own body, your own desires, and your own pleasure. This episode is about hope, and about a door that's still open to you no matter how long you've been on the other side of it. In this episode: • The three pathways into sexual self-abandonment — through approval-seeking, through abusive relationships, and through trauma and dissociation — and why they so often overlap • Why "sacred sexuality" group spaces can actually be dangerous if you haven't done this work yet • The six steps back to yourself, including the grief that's part of the process (and why that grief is a good sign, not a setback) • What it actually means to come home to your own body, your own erotic self, and your own yes and no — and why that's the foundation everything else gets built on Topics: sexual self-abandonment, somatic sex coaching, sexual trauma recovery, de-shaming, erotic self, intimacy coach, body-based healing, dissociation, reconnecting with your body, feminist sex coach Get my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guide (https://laurajurgens.com/libido) More links: Substack at https://laurajurgens.substack.com/ Pleasure Path Diagnostic here: https://laurajurgens.com/diagnostic/ About me, testimonials, blog, bookings: https://laurajurgens.com (https://laurajurgens.com/) / Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheel Copyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited.